Comments on: How to Buy Someone a Drink

on 12/29/2007 I was been standing at the bar (the club was packed) a man insisted that I take his seat and then asked if he could buy me a drink, I said, I'm fine, but thank you, and a few minutes later another man came up to me and said Hi, my name is Bill, are you new here?" I said not to the area, but the first time to this club. That's how our conversation started, and to make a long story short, we are married and have been together for 12 years. Both men were very sweet and handsome, so I think that something else happens, something just clicks I guess. The last thing on my mind that night was to meet a future husband.

on 12/28/2007 If it were me, I'd ask the lady to buy me a drink.

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on 12/28/2007 this stresses me out.

on 5/20/2007 JUST DONT DO IT!

on 7/14/2006 Don't buy a women a drink, it doesn't work. What you are communicating by buying a women a drink is that your company alone is not enough, and that you must pay for her attention. There are tons of guys who buy women drinks. Attractive women have guys buying them drinks all the time. By buying a women a drink you are placing yourself in the category of "every other guy." Women of particular beauty are approached many times every day. Do something different, be unique and save your money.

on 3/16/2006 Most times I've had a drink bought for me, I've ordered it myself and while I'm waiting for it some guy offers to buy it! It's very flattering as a woman to have a drink bought for you, and it makes the guy look incredibly suave and confident. And if she's not interested in meeting you, she'll decline the offer.

on 11/22/2005 Guys, buying a girl a drink straight off the bat is a dangerous thing to try. Talk to them first. Let them know that you are someone who they can enjoy a conversation with after the drink is bought. Otherwise you will end up talking about the drink you have bought and I can't think of many things sadder that that.

on 11/22/2005 Post up at the bar, smile and buy drinks for several people. When the person you like approaches the bar to get their drink, ask them what they are drinking and tack it on to your next round like it was an afterthought. When their drink comes, hand them a drink with a contented smile and stike up a casual conversation, the topic of which should be about the person or something that interests them. Get them talking about themself by showing interest in things that interest them. If they are with a group, let them return to the group. When you drift by and smile later the person will talk to you, then just turn on your charm.

on 11/22/2005 Don't be offended if a woman refuses to let you buy her a drink. With date rape drugs being used to spike drinks more frequently, women are getting more cautious. If at all possible, it's better to see what she's drinking and have the barman or waiter deliver it to her with your compliments. This way, she knows it hasn't been tampered with. If she gives you the nod when she receives it, that's your cue to go talk to her.

on 11/22/2005 You may be a [insert firewater of choice] expert, but not everyone is, and not everyone cares. In fact, most people like booze for the booze, not for the substance in which it is held in suspension. If you become overly judgmental about someone's drink choice, or offer too much patronizing assistance, you are defeating the reason for buying another person a drink (which is getting to meet a new person). If they don't know what they want, or they wish for some advice, let them know what you like to drink, or rely on the bartender. After all, you came to a bar to rely on someone else's pouring abilities. Respect the bartender enough to recognize that they probably know more about their stock than you do. If they guess wrong, and your intended target does not love the provided beverage, it is yet another conversational vehicle left open to you. Offer to buy another, and you'll look even nicer.

on 11/22/2005 All you have to do when you first meet someone is say "How's it going?" This can bring up many subjects.