When grade-schoolers experience separation anxiety and act clingy, parents may feel stressed and anxious, too. It's not just the actual act of separating that causes the clinging -- it can also be caused by anticipation. Separation anxiety is a somewhat common affliction in children, especially when they must deal with new school challenges, says the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. In addition to clinging, AACAP continues, signs of separation anxiety can include excessive worry, a fear of going to school, nightmares and tantrums. But you don't have to feel powerless -- you can help your grade-schooler overcome her…
Some kids can't seem to contain the monster. It creeps up inside them when their favorite toy doesn't work right, when the family dog gets too loud or because "Timmy pushed me." If you're dealing with an overly aggressive child, your frustration is probably building, but don't give up just yet. Helping an aggressive child develop self-control to avoid angry outbursts can be done with a few proactive measures, even in seemingly hopeless cases.
Bullying is a serious problem among school-aged children. While many parents assume that boys are usually the victims and perpetrators of bullying, girls deal with bullying just as frequently. They might not engage in fistfights or physical combat -- girls who are bullied are often recipients of indirect verbal behaviors, such as rumors, gossip or social exclusion. As a parent, you don't have to stand by and watch your daughter suffer endlessly -- take a proactive role to help her deal with bullies.
When a policeman is in the line of duty, he often wears a bulletproof vest to protect himself from those who seek to do physical harm. But protection against bullying requires more than just a physical shield. Because bullying can be physical and emotional, you'll need to equip your daughters with the self-confidence and compassion required to bully-proof themselves from other children who look to hurt.
Children with an autistic spectrum disorder, whether Asperger's or classic autism, thrive on routine But life is full of changes, such as starting school or moving from one activity to another. These transitions can be uncomfortable or disturbing to autistic children, especially if there are no supports put in place to make transitions seem less stressful or challenging. Transition strategies reduce the amount of transition time, increase appropriate behavior and improve success in activities surrounding the transitions.
Gratitude is a way of life that involves showing and feeling appreciation for the things you have and for the kind actions of others. When you cultivate gratitude in your children, you not only teach them to verbally express their feelings of thankfulness and appreciation but you also help them feel these emotions as well. According to parenting expert Betsy Brown Braun, children are not born feeling gratitude -- it is a habit that must be taught.
Teaching your children how to effectively solve conflicts is an important skill that can last a lifetime. Children engage in conflict for many reasons. For example, conflict may occur when children disagree about who won a race in gym class or when other children won't share their toys. When children cannot solve conflicts, their behavior can escalate into physical or verbal aggression or cause serious emotional problems, like intense anger or anxiety. As a parent, you play an important role in teaching and modeling appropriate conflict-resolution skills.
You can almost hear the teachers and kids whooping in excitement at the start of winter break. Now it's your turn to keep the kids entertained until school resumes in January. The cold and sometimes frightful weather during winter break means you can't simply shove the kids outdoors, but you'll all go crazy if you stay inside. Taking advantage of community events, using your creativity and venturing outdoors safely helps everyone enjoy winter break without you losing your sanity.
With seemingly boundless energy and a curious disposition, your preschooler can drive you to your wit's end. Whether it's endless questions or a constant plea to play, your preschooler is going through a period of major growth and development. Instead of getting flustered, work to nurture and respect your preschooler's curiosity, charming silliness and overall sense of fun.
If you want to raise a healthy child, you should make this venture a family affair. Teaching your child how to exercise, eat right and adopt certain habits helps develop a strong foundation for your child to build upon. Mindful living creates a happier, healthier home for your child to grow and thrive in.
All kids have the potential to be creative, but they need an environment that nurtures that creativity so they don't lose the spark. Your actions as a parent serve as a guide for your child. When given opportunities to express his creativity, he learns to think about things in a new way. He becomes a creative problem solver and learns to take risks with his ideas. Encouraging your child to express himself helps his creativity blossom.
If your little one wiggles and squirms during story time at the library, her teacher notes that she she daydreams during class or you notice she loses focus on occasion when you talk to her, you can do something about it. As long as your child doesn't have a diagnosed attention deficit disorder -- keep in mind that only a medical or psychological professional can diagnose this -- you can help her increase her attention span as she grows and develops.
You want to believe your youngster will always be truthful -- perhaps incapable of dishonesty and deception -- but it’s nearly inevitable that one day a falsehood will slip from your child’s lips. How you handle the infraction can help to determine just how many more lies you’ll have to contend with in the future. Punishment is one facet of discipline that can help your child learn from his mistake to make better choices in the future, but be sure to temper punishment with understanding, good examples and praise for good behaviors.
Teaching good values takes time, patience and consistency, but it is one of the most important things you can do for your child. It is never too early to begin teaching your children good values, which will help them grow up to be kind and productive members of society. Teaching your children good values will help them be more responsible, have higher self-esteem and lead more productive lives.
Good interpersonal communication skills are essential for almost every aspect of life. Being able to effectively communicate with others helps people resolve problems, establishes trust, encourages understanding and compassion and helps build relationships. Teaching your child how to effectively communicate with others provides him with a gift that can last a lifetime. But your child needs your help in learning how to relate to others and knowing how to express his needs, wants and concerns in a socially-appropriate way.
The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry describes lip sucking, among other oral fixations, as a common childhood habit that typically begins as a way to satisfy an urge for contact or security. Though it's normal in children under the age of 3, persistent lip sucking can result in tissue trauma, nerve damage and facial ramifications, as well as long-term dental and jaw development problems that may be expensive, time-consuming and painful to fix. Early intervention and open communication with your pediatric dentist are critical in helping your child kick this harmful habit.
Bullying is a common problem, and according to StopBullying.gov, 28 percent of sixth through 12th graders experience bullying and 70.6 percent of students say they have witnessed bullying in school. Kids who experience bullying are at greater risk for depression, poor performance in school and violent behavior, including violence toward self. The Family Resource Facilitation Program says that as much as 85 percent of bullying takes place in front of others, and that when bystanders intervene, they can stop bullying within 10 seconds in the majority of cases.
Toddlers are well-known for losing their tempers; it's not called the "terrible twos" for nothing. However, even older children can be prone to the occasional tantrum. Tantrums at home are one thing, but those that happen in public are quite another. First of all, remember that all children have their moments of bad behavior, and you're not the first parent to face the embarrassment of trying to placate a screaming child in a busy shopping mall or playground. But you can take steps to try to prevent public tantrums before they start.
From first sight, your child enters your heart and inspires you to nurture her with love and encouragement. While your children certainly need and deserve your support, Ask Dr. Sears cautions against assuming a thick layer of praise and compliments is the ticket to building your child's self-confidence. Putting unrealistic, guilt-producing expectations on yourself to take sole responsibility for her self-esteem by shielding her against even a hint of frustration, disappointment or unhappiness will actually be a confidence killer when she encounters the challenges of the real world. Raising a self-confident child takes no special training. Enjoy your kids and…
Children with ADD and ADHD face tremendous challenges in focusing on tasks and completing them on time. Providing structure in your child's life can help decrease frustration for both of you. According to Helpguide.org, your child may be so distracted that he doesn't hear your instructions, so creating a daily routine is essential. By keeping his environment neat, organized and predictable, you can help minimize the internal chaos that may keep your ADD/ADHD child from thriving.
Story time is great for your child's development. It helps him hone his listening skills, encourages him to use his imagination and teaches him to sit still. However, some children find it harder to stay in one place than others. Don't avoid story time simply because you have a particularly active, impatient child.
Signs that your child is being bullied include avoiding situations such as going to school or riding the bus, according to Kids Health. Sleep issues and out of the ordinary moodiness are additional indicators that your child may be getting picked on. Once you determine this is the case, help him develop coping skills to deal with this and future bullies.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a behavioral disorder that, if not effectively managed, can wreak havoc on a child's life. There are three subtypes of ADHD: predominantly hyperactive-impulsive, predominantly inattentive and combined hyperactive-impulsive and inattentive. Depending on the subtype, a child with ADHD may struggle with impulsiveness, attention burnout, loss of focus and problems with organization and memory. As a result, his environment can significantly impact his level of functioning. Delayed metacognition skills -- thinking about thinking -- in the ADHD child make it even harder for him to compensate for surroundings that are less than ideal for his cognitive…
Writer's block strikes even the most experienced of writers, and children are not immune to this plight. Whether it be a book report, creative story, a science fair project summary, a math word problem or a social studies report, writing is a task that your child will encounter repeatedly in school. A child suffering from writer's block can become further entrenched in his state of being stuck with each failed attempt to write and may need your help. Ease your child's written output struggles with strategies to bypass writer's block.
If you feel more like a maid than a mom, involve the entire family and assign different household responsibilities to each member. As children develop, they can tackle a greater number and greater difficulties of tasks, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, on the HealthyChildren.org website. For example, grade school-aged kids can make their own beds, pick up their toys and help with light yard work such as raking leaves. Teens can complete more complex chores such as washing the dishes, preparing lunches for school or vacuuming. Instead of telling your children who should do what, create a printable…
It is not at all unusual for your young child to start wailing and crying the second you try to step out the door of his daycare. Putting your child in a new environment with a new caregiver is unsettling to your child, and his anxiety over you leaving might turn into uncontrollable crying. While most daycare staff members are used to this response and should handle it effectively with or without you, as a parent, you have the ability to ease your child into the situation, teach him self-regulation skills and help him interact with peers.
Bullying not only includes physical aggression but can also take the form of name-calling or social ostracism and can occur in person or online. Although some people may think of getting bullied as a rite of passage, bullying can have serious consequences for both bullies and victims. Being a victim of bullying has been linked to depression, anxiety, decreased academic achievement, and in rare cases homicide or suicide. Bullies are more likely to use alcohol and drugs and become abusive adults. However, parents have the opportunity to make a positive impact on their children's behavior and help teach them not…
Bullying is an unfortunate yet common occurrence for many children. According to StopBullying.gov, boys and girls experience similar rates of bullying when it comes to verbal bullying, threats and property damage, but boys are more likely to be victims of physical bullying. However, you don't have to feel like there is nothing you can do about it. Take a proactive approach and intervene when necessary to better the situation.
You may be feeling overwhelmed and at your wit's end trying to help your child learn appropriate behaviors. Some children respond well to structured discipline, while others require a little more guidance in order for their behaviors to be in line with what you feel is suitable. Creating and using a behavior goal chart with your child can be a helpful way to start directing his behaviors toward recognizable improvement. The use of behavior goal charts can encourage positive choices and place emphasis on satisfactory behaviors.
The time has come for your 3-year-old to sleep in her own bed, but she doesn't share your enthusiasm for the idea. She asks for countless glasses of water, keeps tiptoeing down the hall and generally refuses to stay put at bedtime. Establishing a nightly routine and being consistent about not letting her sleep with you are key steps in eliminating the battles and having her sleep in her bed like a big girl.
Talking to your child about race and racial differences should start at a young age, according to Lakeshore Ethnic Diversity Alliance, an organization based in Holland, Michigan. Babies as young as 6 months old can notice different skin colors and by 3 years of age develop a preference for some races over others. Discussing racial differences will help your child understand the importance of acceptance, tolerance and embracing other cultures.
Many children go through separation anxiety as a normal part of their development, according to the website Kids Health. As your child faces new life experiences, such as going to school, daycare or social functions, she may become anxious to have you stay with her. However, you can help her through this developmental stage and move toward being a more confident and secure young person.
Hyperactive children seem to have endless energy that allows them to talk without pausing to take a breath and run all day without tiring. Although adults often envy their high energy levels, hyperactivity may cause a variety of problems for children. A hyperactive child may experience academic problems because he can't sit still long enough to do his work. He may also experience social problems when his behavior annoys his peers. At home, a hyperactive child may struggle to follow directions and may behave impulsively. Reduce the negative impact that hyperactivity has on your child by preventing behavior problems before…
Whether your preschooler is having an emotion-fueled outburst in the middle of the mall, your third grader stomps off of the soccer field in an angry huff or your fifth grade student throws her pencil across the room when she can't solve all of the problems on her math assignment, using a collaborative approach can turn her behavior around without having to enforce a harsh punishment. A collaborative problem solving technique emphasizes the parent's ability to empathize with the child, working as a team to together solve the behavioral problem at hand.
In a perfect world, your child would behave appropriately because it's the right thing to do; however, in the real world, that is not always the way it works. A reward system provides a win-win for everybody involved, as it gives you options other than punishment, and your child takes pride in achieving goals. The world is based on a reward system. Paychecks, good grades and Olympic medals all provide rewards for a job well done. Rewarding your child for positive behavior helps him learn that what he achieves in life is within his control. .
The picture of the perfect parent is often painted as a doting mother or father who lavishes attention on their little darlings. In reality, this is not always necessary, or even always healthy. Ignoring your children occasionally isn't an automatic detriment to their development; however, there are times when ignoring children can go too far and have damaging results.
As much as you love your child, he likely has his moments when he gets on your nerves. Instead of reacting negatively to your child’s obnoxious behavior, employ a different parenting technique that can help minimize the behavior you don’t want. By ignoring behavior, you send a subtle, yet effective, message to your child about acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Your child should learn from your cues and learn that obnoxious behavior isn't productive.
Raising children is never without its challenges, and these obstacles can range far and wide, from small instances of misbehavior to much more serious problems. While there is no how-to guide on raising children properly, certain tips and tricks can keep you from feeling hopeless and desperate.
Kids are messy creatures, and the idea that their little fingers occasionally explore their noses surprises no one, especially parents. While nose picking in children may be common and even expected, it has not reached the point where it is socially acceptable. Fingers and noses also carry germs and bacteria, so it's a health concern for most parents. Instead of punishing the nose picking, get your child to stop by keeping his hands too busy to pick and making sure the nose is clean and comfortable.
"Stop fighting! Leave your sister alone! I've had enough of this arguing!" Parents often bark orders to end arguing as a cure-all for sibling squabbles, but you may find these statements ineffective -- especially in the long term. Some bickering is inevitable when you put more than one child in a room. Minor disagreements help your kids learn to resolve conflict and compromise, but when those behaviors turn into bullying or aggression, adult intervention is necessary. You can help curb the bickering by creating a respectful environment that discourages sibling rivalry.
Kids begin to develop morals and character at an early age and learn to live with family, friends and classmates by incorporating these into life. Picture books help adults teach small children important moral lessons. Psychologist Lawrence Kohlberg grouped morality into stages beginning with punishment and obedience. Young children start with this foundation, but picture book lessons help kids develop morals that take into consideration the feelings of others, focus on the rightness of actions, and explain society's system of law and order. Daily reading sessions from picture books featuring moral themes teach kids to explore morality.
Whether you have concerns about how your child is acting with her friends, are wondering if the defiance that her pre-K teacher reports at school is real or are just questioning her behaviors, making careful observations can help you notice patterns or pick up on issues for further evaluation. Although you'll need an expert -- such as the pediatrician or a child development professional -- to truly assess your child's potentially problematic behaviors, you can use your observational skills to note minor difficulties or make notes to give to the doctor.
Tolerance toward other cultures is something children will generally learn from their parents and the attitudes that are used around the house. Children tend to imitate the attitudes of their parents, especially at a young age, which can greatly influence how children act. How parents speak of other cultures, both directly and indirectly, creates the children's first impression of these cultures. Parents can become proactive by teaching their children about other cultures, so that they do not fear behaviors that are different from their own, notes the Nemours Foundation's Kids Health website.
At some point, children and teens beg for parents to extend some trust in the form of privileges. As a parent, it can be difficult to let go of your control and know when your child is ready to handle more responsibility and independence. No single answer will suffice for every child. However, looking for key indicators of maturity, reliability and respect for authority, along with a little parental intuition about your child's character and ability to handle additional privileges wisely, can guide you defining your requirements for getting more privileges from parents for your children and teens.
Does your child struggle with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder-related behavioral issues? ADHD can affect your child at home, in the classroom, during interactions with peers and in other social situations. Though it will not completely eradicate difficult behavioral responses, modification techniques can help your child learn to cope with and control them. This can lessen the impact of these behaviors on the day-to-day life of your child.
Whether it's a little white lie or a total whopper, it's unnerving when your child tells a lie. After all, it usually indicates that she's uncomfortable in telling the truth for some reason. That's why it's as important to focus on the reason for the lie as it is the lie itself. By helping your child to understand that honesty is always the best policy, you can nip the issue in the bud before it becomes a big problem.
Children are often fascinated by hair. It's when the touching and playing becomes pulling -- and on a regular basis -- that parents start to become concerned. In severe cases, you might begin to notice bald spots. Or, perhaps your child may be ashamed or embarrassed of her hair-pulling. Don't put off addressing this behavior, even in its early stages. You won't likely stop your child overnight, but with commitment on your part to keep watch and reward your child, you can help her stop this bad habit.
Attention deficit disorder can derail even the brightest child, leading to frustration for both of you. PsychCentral reports that people with ADD often have associated mental health issues such as anxiety or obsessive-compulsive traits, which can make parenting your ADD child extra-challenging. However, children with ADD can also be creative and funny, and with the right parenting, you can help them succeed in meeting their educational and life goals. Consistency is key when parenting a highly distractible child.
Children receive a great deal of manners instruction throughout childhood from parents and other adults. Even more powerful in shaping a child's manners are the social interactions he experiences and observes in his immediate family and in the world around him. Children are born with the capacity to be highly observant of their families, according to “Revisiting and Updating the Multicultural Principles For Head Start Programs,” prepared by the Office of Head Start. They use those innate capacities to begin absorbing information about social behavior and manners right from the start, with their very first interactions.
In 2011, 5.9 percent of high school students reported not going to school because they felt unsafe, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's Youth Risk Behavior Survey. If your child is the victim of any type of bullying -- including verbal insults, physical abuse, purposeful social isolation or cyberbullying -- assessing the effects is a key part of solving the problem. Although some of the effects of bullying are obvious, such as physical signs, others may include more subtle or inward signs that are less obvious for even the keen parent to spot.
When a child gets stuck in a rut of shyness, he might miss out on creating friendships with his peers, which can be frustrating and painful for a child. Social interaction is important for emotional well-being, so addressing the issue and giving your child practical tools for overcoming shyness is essential. Shyness is something your child could carry with him into adulthood, but if you teach social strategies earlier in his life, he is much less likely to miss opportunities, and he is more likely to be able to build successful friendships and relationships.
Every parent loves a good cuddle but personal space is important too. When your wee one won't allow you an inch, ask yourself why she is feeling so dependent. Do your best to boost self-confidence in your cutie, which as Dr. Sears notes on AskDrSears.com, will help him to venture out on his own -- beyond your leg. Remind yourself that your toddler's emotional needs change as he grows, and this too shall pass.
An overachieving child may seem like a dream come true to a parent who does not have one, but perfectionist children can have issues with anxiety, frustration and self-applied pressure. It is important to acknowledge perfectionism in your child in order to help her handle life's successes and failures. Parenting a perfectionist child requires patience, persistence and consistency.
It might be gross, but some doctors say nose picking is not a bad thing, provided you wash or sanitize your hands afterward. Regardless, picking the nose is a social faux pas and can become an embarrassing problem once your little one starts school. It might even cause nosebleeds. If you are unsuccessful with your stop-the-nose-picking campaign, your child will most likely kick the habit on his own as he gets older.
The tantrum-at-the-store scenario makes most parents cringe. You’re at the supermarket, filling a cart with food or wandering the aisles for other necessities, and your child erupts in a frenzy of uncontrolled emotions. Whether it’s because you’ve said no to something or he’s just tired and hungry, public tantrums can make you feel frustrated and embarrassed. By acting fast and smart, you can help everyone feel better and save your sanity.
If you're expecting your child to be just like you, it might be time for a reality check. Although she came from your body, she is her own person. Instead of convincing your child to be who you want her to be, enjoy getting to know who she is. Keep in mind that your child will spend more years as an adult than as a child; your willingness to accept her now will help maintain a strong bond later.
Kids often leave behind a messy trail -- from dirty laundry to broken crayons. Getting your child to clean up that mess or help out with other household tasks isn't always easy. A little motivation can help get your child moving on her duties around the house. Getting her to help out teaches her responsibility and takes part of the workload off your plate, leaving more family time for everyone. With a little effort, you can find the combination of motivators that works best for your child.
If it seems you have to spend more time than you'd like focusing on your youngster's negative behavior, you can create your own praise awards to give you an opportunity to focus on the positive and encourage your child to exhibit those good behaviors even more. You don’t have to offer bribes or reward him with expensive items; offer your child the gift of your praise and attention to show him how proud you are of all of his praise-worthy attributes and actions.
Bites and scratches can be preventable. Teach your children early on to care for animals in ways that foster love and respect. Show them how to pet gently, handle carefully and to give an excited animal plenty of space when necessary. Learning these skills early helps children foster life-long friendships with animals. It also goes far in keeping them safe from the wounds a frightened animal can inflict when it feels threatened.
Whether your youngster needs a little positive motivation to help curb a few bad behaviors or you’d like to start taking note of all the good things he does in a day, you can make a simple, colorful chart that will help reinforce good behavior. Talk to your youngster about the types of behavior you’ll be looking for before you begin keeping track, as well as any reward he can expect for being caught in a particular number of good behaviors. Then, all you have to do is look forward to filling up the squares and praising your child for…
A true test of a child's behavior is the church sanctuary -- sitting still, quietly and solemnly for such a long time is no easy task for little ones. Your child may not understand most of what the minister says, making church even less interesting to him. Parents often worry about their child's behavior in the pews since any misbehavior is so easily noticed. Every little squawk or bang is met with prying eyes from other parishioners. With a little practice and direction, your child can improve his church behaviors so you can worship as a family.
Parenthood comes with many milestones and joys, but taking care of your child can also feel isolating. A playgroup serves as a social outlet for both you and your child. Many communities have organized playgroups through churches, community organizations or nationwide chapters of groups such as Mothers of Preschoolers. If your city lacks a playgroup or you feel the available options don't meet your needs, you can start your own playgroup. With a little planning and organization, you can gather others with similar values for regular play dates.
You barely get a moment to yourself -- even going to the bathroom alone seems like a distant memory. Teaching your child to stay engaged while playing solo gives you some breathing room, but it also benefits him. He gains independence, explores his creativity and learns to become his own person, according to Ask Dr. Sears. It may take some time, but, with your encouragement, your child can learn to stay engaged during independent play.
Museums have the reputation of being quiet, solemn halls of ancient artifacts, but modern museums are often welcoming to the noise and exploration of children, according to Bright Horizons Family Solutions. The key to an entertaining and educational museum experience for your family is planning to give you more control over the experience. At the same time, keeping the trip child-centered keeps your little one entertained and reduces your stress levels.
Children are not born with effective coping skills -- these must be acquired. If you want your son to learn to deal with his emotions and express his feelings, you’ll have to be an active participant in these lessons. Taking the time to teach him these skills now can help build a strong emotional foundation.
Children with autism have difficulty getting organized, transitioning from one activity to another, and indicating when they do not understand something. Visual supports, including picture schedules, help keep these children on course. Picture schedules come in many types, but they all require determining a schedule, picturing each scheduled activity, and deciding how to display the pictures and get the child is to use the schedule. Finally, it is important to test the schedule, make whatever changes are needed, and continue to update the schedule.
According to 2012 survey results from the Pew Internet and American Life Project, 77 percent of teens who go online regularly use Facebook. While your child is busy posting, messaging and "liking" photos and comments, you may begin to wonder what she isn't doing. Although your child's use of social media won't bring her other activities -- such as homework -- to a total halt, it may slow down her efficiency somewhat.
A kid wouldn't be a kid if he didn't get into a little mischief occasionally. Nudging at your patience by acting out often comes with your child's pursuit of independence. The difference between normal and abnormal misbehavior isn't always black and white. The definition of "normal' misbehavior" varies considerably from one child to the next, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics.
If your 4-year-old is clinging to your leg as you try to drop her off at pre-K, you should know that some separation anxiety is normal childhood behavior, especially when it's her first experience being away from the home. By creating a simple, predictable routine and helping your preschooler get comfortable with the idea of pre-K, she'll be more enthusiastic and less likely to have a meltdown come Monday.
You put a healthy, happy child to sleep the night before, but when it's time to wake up for school, he's suddenly too sick to hop on the school bus. The sudden onset of symptoms -- or lack of symptoms entirely -- might leave you suspicious, wondering if your child is truly sick. Playing detective and doctor at the same time can help you deal with a child who is pretending to be sick.
Raising a healthy, emotionally balanced child isn’t about shielding him from negative feelings and situations; it’s about showing him how to label, talk about and appropriately express, or deal with, a wide range of emotions when they arise. If you want to teach your child how to express his feelings, you can use daily life and some learning materials to help him develop these skills. Demonstrating trust, respect, effective communication and healthy coping skills will help your child build a strong emotional foundation.
Sex and drugs are arguably two of the most difficult topics to bring up with your child. While it's not weird to feel uncomfortable or to even want to avoid the topics altogether, remember that a 12-year-old is almost guaranteed to hear about drugs and sex from her peers. Addressing these issues early might make it easier for your child to come to you with questions or if problems should arise.
You're watching your preschooler on the playground, viewing a seemingly aggressive episode in which he and his BFF are diving off the climber and wrestling one another like World Wrestling Federation competitors. Is he bullying the other boy, or is this just mutually agreed upon rough play? Discerning the differences between bullying and rough play, at any age, is a must when it comes to protecting and parenting your child.
Children do crave undivided attention from their parents and caregivers. That attention can be hard to come by these days, as schedules are hectic and jam-packed. However, the most vital part of cognitive development happens between birth and five years, and during this time, children need attention in order to flourish. Attention from caregivers is crucial to the health and well-being of a child.
Whether your youngster’s peers are trying to lead him down the wrong road or you’re hoping to get him prepared to deal with peer pressure ahead of time, you can enlist the help of a variety of activities at home to teach him how to stand his ground. Encourage your child to be confident, assertive and a good leader, and then ensure he knows he can always come to you if he's feeling pressured and unsure how to handle a troubling circumstance.
If you are struggling to understand why your child misbehaves, the first step is to consider the factors that could be influencing the misbehavior. The motivation behind bad behavior can come from several sources, including stress from external issues and psychological problems. Though every child acts up at some point, chronic misbehavior can indicate deeper problems.
Every child can benefit from knowing how to use breathing techniques to calm his nerves. Whether the child is feeling anxious, angry or just needs to relax, breathing exercises can help a child get to a place of internal calm. Adults can show the child a few simple tricks to use these techniques daily.
Ear problems affect many children and can become disruptive to their daily lives if left untreated. According to the National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders, three out of four children are plagued by an ear infection before their third birthday and it's one of the most common reasons for doctors visits. Not only can ear problems be painful, they can also cause changes in behavior.
Life for boys can be tough sometimes. As they are growing into men, they are dealing with body changes; wanting to fit in; feelings of needing to be independent from their parents; and the temptations of alcohol, tobacco, drugs and girls. All of these things combined can be stressful and cause boys to find trouble. Parents who are unable to get through to their son themselves can seek assistance. Christian camps aim to help guide troubled boys through these trying times, by building character and reinforcing positive habits and behavior. The Lone Star State of Texas is home to an…
A classroom of kids can be challenging to manage, especially if some of the youngsters have trouble paying attention. If children do not pay attention in class, several issues can arise that affect everyone negatively. With youngsters on-task and engaged in classroom activities, learning occurs and the entire class benefits.
Personal hygiene may not be one of those issues that kids worry about much. As a parent, it’s important to instill responsible personal hygiene habits in your child to ensure that she takes care of herself properly. Before you can expect exemplary hygiene habits, however, you must teach your child the value of staying clean. Once she understands the importance, you’ve taken big step toward independent hygiene.
While many children and adolescents exhibit behavioral issues at various intervals during their development, disruptive behavior problems interrupt their ability to function at home, in school or out in the community. The two most common diagnoses for disruptive behavior problems are Conduct Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder, which may co-occur with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, according to the Mental Health Association of Westchester. Disruptive behaviors stemming from CD, ODD and ADHD include physical aggression, excessive temper tantrums and arguing as well as general defiance and resistance to authority figures, according to HealthyChildren.org. These behaviors generally intensify as children grow, leading…
As a parent, you know parenting is a tough enough job on its own. When you add behavior problems to the mix, the task is even more challenging and stressful. Your children don’t come with an owner’s manual and your own natural parental instincts may not be enough to combat tougher behavior issues. Parenting classes taught by qualified professionals specializing in problem behaviors can help give you new ideas and the skills necessary to cope with your child's difficult behavior.
Whether you're the team coach, a parent helper or are simply sitting on the sidelines, getting the kids pumped up to play is a key part of making the most of any children's athletic activity. Instead of having a group of unmotivated kids shirking around the soccer field or T-ball diamond, put some oomph into the affair and get the energy going with your own blend of motivational techniques.
Have you ever wondered where the behavior of your child originated from? Many experts believe that it can be attributed to one or more theoretical perspectives that examine child development. From the earliest stages of childhood, children are constantly confronted with thoughts, people and situations that can influence their behavior. Understanding the significance of these factors can help you recognize what may influence behavioral responses to different stimuli. It can also give some insight into what factors contribute to anti-social or aggressive behavior.
Most people can immediately see the difference in a child who is confident and has a healthy self-esteem compared with a kid who is not affirmed at home. Building your child’s self-esteem is like giving him armor against life’s challenges, according to KidsHealth.org. Affirming your child does not need to be difficult or complex. Taking even just a few moments each day to invest in his emotional well-being will help carry him into a well-adjusted adulthood.
Older siblings are influential in shaping their younger siblings' behavior. Some parents forget to factor the role played by older children in the behavioral development of younger siblings into their parenting strategies. Such parents concentrate on shielding their children from causes of negative behavior such as drug abuse, peer pressure, poor diet and changes in family structure. If your older children are well behaved and have quality traits, the younger ones are not likely to exhibit negative behavior.
Behavior tends to stem from one of two sources: emotion and logic. For children, the former often takes precedence, leading to problematic behaviors. A parent who understands the reasons for this and know how to address it is in a better position to raise an emotionally intelligent child.
Parenting a strong-willed child can be frustrating, tiring, and at times, overwhelming. Some may call your child "stubborn," while others whisper "He knows his own mind." Stubborn or independent, dealing with a child who opposes you at every turn is not easy. Do not lose heart. Parenting with sensitivity, providing choices within limits and avoiding power struggles will help build your child's leadership traits while decreasing rebelliousness, says clinical psychologist Laura Markham. Take a deep breath and get ready for a bumpy, yet rewarding ride, with your bundle of energy.
School can be either exciting or dreadful for a child. While some children are adventurous and excited about school, others are tentative. Children perceive a variety of real and imaginary fears that adults may not consider significant. While older schoolchildren have fears including death, failure or insecurity, preschool children have fears simply due to separation from their parents. Separation anxiety is quite common among preschool children just entering school or in the first few days following school holidays. You can prepare your child for school by taking basic steps to help him cope.
Reframing is a technique that can be helpful to parents dealing with children who are exhibiting negative behavior. It involves viewing a child's negative actions or thoughts in a different way and helping the child do the same. In a study discussed in "Pediatrics," the official journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, reframing was said to be a "simple but powerful tool" that strengthened parent-child relationships. By reframing thoughts from negative to positive, parents can assist their child in improving how he responds to different situations.
If your kids are constantly bickering with each other or with friends, teaching them conflict-resolution skills can help put a stop to the fights. However, teaching skills might not work when they're in the middle of a heated argument. To de-escalate the fight without making children think you're taking the side of one over the other, mediator Susie North, in an article for the "Los Angeles Times," suggests getting the whole story before you take action.
Some children may be quite challenging to manage due to their high activity levels. Such children are often fidgety and respond to new situations rapidly. Healthy Children defines the way a child reacts to the world around him as temperament. Temperament determines a child’s personality, such as calm or restless. Restlessness is an inborn quality, but medical conditions and environmental factors can cause it.
Highly gifted children demonstrate high performance abilities in intellectual, creative or academic fields. These children may find it hard to socialize with peers and spend less time with them because they feel different. HealthyChildren.org reports that this isolation may hamper the development of social skills. Social challenges affecting highly gifted children include perfectionism, introversion, intensity and adjustment problems. By understanding ways to overcome such issues, you can help your highly gifted child develop social skills.
Disruptive behavior disorders -- including oppositional defiance and conduct disorder -- can be difficult to deal with. Oppositional defiant disorder is marked by disobedience and hostility towards authority figures and may present as tantrums, aggression or low self-esteem according to the MayoClinic. Conduct disorder often begins with similar symptoms, and may escalate to more severe behaviors that include running away, vandalism or early sexual encounters according to WebMD. By understanding how disruptive behaviors may present themselves and what steps can be taken to intervene, parents can effectively reduce these behaviors in their autistic children.
Parents of children with autism spend a significant amount of time managing the demands of autism, including dealing with behavior in the home and participating in various treatment interventions. These are time-consuming tasks, particularly for parents who also have other children. It is important to provide support to siblings of children with autism, who may feel left out or lack understanding of what’s happening in their home. By providing them with age-appropriate information, individual attention and outlets to discuss their feelings, these siblings can better understand and manage their experience.
If you have a child that is a habitual nail biter, nose picker, hair puller, knuckle cracker or teeth grinder, he can be downright annoying to be around. Even if his behavior makes you want to pull your hair out, there are better ways to go about coping with it. With some patience and understanding, you can help your child change his bad habits into something more positive.
Ten to 20 percent of children are born with high impulsiveness and/or sensitivity to sensory stimulation, reports Child Care Center. Parents of impulsive children may find it difficult to deal with them and resort to some strategies such as spanking, which may harm the child physically and emotionally. Use other strategies with more positive outcomes to ensure an impulsive child develops healthy behavior.
The more television children watch, the more they will be exposed to violence, as the average American child will witness 200,000 violent acts on television before he turns 18, according to the Kids Health website. Since 32 percent of children between the ages of 2 and 7 have televisions in their rooms, reports Pediatrics journal, children have unprecedented access to the violent images that are found on daily broadcasts. It is important for parents to learn about how violence can influence their child's behavior and make the necessary changes.
Even though your little one miraculously learned to talk up a storm on her own, the virtues of communication are a learned set of skills. Keep in mind that no matter what you say, it won't fly unless you lead by example. Your kids are listening closely to every word you say -- even the four-letter ones you sometimes mutter under your breath.