I love how people think that this whole thing can be turned into a formula. I've wanted to come out since I was 8, but 8 years later I still haven't. there's never a perfect time to tell people (especially when you're still stuck in the suburbs in high school). sure, I have accepted it myself, but sometimes you can tell that other obviously won't. Sure they're "liberal-minded" and vote for liberal candidates, but they don't want to actually be in a deep personal relationship with an actual gay person. They may pretend to accept you, but they will most certainly feel uncomfortable around you and the friendship will likely deteriorate.
The point is, coming out is really easy for straight people to suggest/give instructions about. But when the person coming out is you, you can't look at everything from a "who cares what they think" perspective. Whenever someone makes a gay joke or
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I love how people think that this whole thing can be turned into a formula. I've wanted to come out since I was 8, but 8 years later I still haven't. there's never a perfect time to tell people (especially when you're still stuck in the suburbs in high school). sure, I have accepted it myself, but sometimes you can tell that other obviously won't. Sure they're "liberal-minded" and vote for liberal candidates, but they don't want to actually be in a deep personal relationship with an actual gay person. They may pretend to accept you, but they will most certainly feel uncomfortable around you and the friendship will likely deteriorate.
The point is, coming out is really easy for straight people to suggest/give instructions about. But when the person coming out is you, you can't look at everything from a "who cares what they think" perspective. Whenever someone makes a gay joke or
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