If you are a penny pincher, now is not the time. If you can cut down on other things to get a good experienced lawyer then I would do it. Will probably cost more, but worth it in the long run. Take out a loan if you have to, borrow from family. I almost broke myself with my lawyer, but he was amazing. He didnt play nice, he went poking and jabbing at every little wound and I won... In a state where males lose 90% or more, it was worth the money.
Get a lawyer that specializes in divorce / custody. If a male, look for a fathers rights attorney.
Dont reveal all of the dirt you have on your spouse to your spouse. Tell your lawyer, never show your cards, even if your mad about something.
If your state permits record all phone conversations. My state as alot of them allow phone conversations to be recorded as long as one party is aware that it is being records, im my care that was me. I simply called and started talking and asking questions that I knew would set her off and get her to start revealing information that would look bad on her in court.
Child custody is not fair, life isnt fair, play dirty.
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GreatMom - I posted the comment on 12/21/06 - looking back I see I was pretty upset at the time. But inho the best enviroment for my kids is with me. To make sure that happened I had to destroy my ex-wife's reputation by making everyone see the person she really is and was. It's not about destroying someone - its about do what you have to do to get your kids. In a perfect world we would not have divorces. I think marriage is forever and no one should get divorced, she left me - her choice, but I did not stand around and let her take my kids too.
JD
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