HowToDating, you are a facist in the fullest degree! There is no steps to talking to girls or to anyone. You think you're special because you conquered your dumb phobia and you've created your own step by step for coming out of your phobic shell?? You're NOBODY! There's a simple rule by which anyone and everyone can follow to become a master at talking to girls, guys, children and even animals...and the keyword is...Understanding! You acquire understanding through 3 elements: Communication, Affinity & Reality. To become the master in talking to not just girls but to anyone in this lifetime; all you need to do is find reality with that person via communication. For example... You see a pretty girl at the bus stop and you just arrived. You smile at her, (creating a nice likeable image aka AFFINITY) you then say, "Excuse me, do you know if the bus is gonna be here soon?" (Co

I like your solid advice. So simple most men totally miss it. When you practice your social skills, be certain to look the women in the eye when talking to them. This is how I 'test' anyone I meet for the first time. Whether you realize it or not, most people do. Go ahead, approach those women you feel are 'hot'. Like I tell my sons, "if you don't think a girl is too good for you, I guarantee they aren't good enough." Think about it... 5 stars!

You are all missing the real point: making social contact because you wish to do so. Holding back is important, too. You are holding back because you know something is missing or you would naturally just feel confident. Any human being with skills has them because they practice those skills. Skills only become available to you as you practice. So you could have fun and take this practice lightly while remaining genuine. Know what you are really after, and if it is shallow, know that, too. Shallow is less likely to succeed, but it trumps liars and turnoffs and fakes, oh, my! But you knew that! Enjoy social practice in less stressful places/less showy places than a bar. See my article on flirting... it is guaranteed to work or your money back. (Yes, it's free, but tell your friends and help me get rich helping you get successful!)

Cool Alek! Day game's a lot of fun but has it's own challenges!

Hey guys, from a women here, first and fore most, be yourself, have confidence. Women want a man who is strong and confident. If you believe you can be with a beutiful women then you can. Make her smile, say something nice. And the best trick of all (i've had this happen) Buy a drink ticket then walk up to her and pretend to pick it up off the floor. Ask her if she dropped it. When she says no, you can say well then it looks like your next rink is on me then. It will make her smile and its not as creepy as the guy who buys you drinks all night from across the bar but never speaks. lol good article.

Maybe I shouldn't write articles that tell people how to change and improve when they're dead set on being victims "oh boohooooo, I was born shy, bohooooo". From now on I'll write ehows like "how to feel good about your f*ed up genetics"... It'll include steps like, go buy an xbox, download a bunch of pr0n, and numb yourself with food, alcohol and cigarettes. You know, if you don't want to change, don't. No article is being forced onto you. If you don't believe you can change, don't. But don't come here and act as if this article is forcing you to change and talk about "poor ol shy me". I had the most severe form of social phobia medically possible, but have now gone through all these steps. So don't have the arrogance to cry to me. Just close the window, or surf away to another website. Don't sit around here and rant and flame and rate down because this article offended you. It of

"There's one aspect of this whole article you failed to address...What if you're an ultra-geek like me?! ;-) " The article is "how to de-geekify" yourself lol. Its about HOW to get social skills. A geek is nothing more than a set of skills, and lack of others (more technical than social skills)... v.s. a jock who's the opposite. There was NO person i've ever known who was a bigger geek than I was. If I could do it, anyone can. Its called social skills, not "social talent" or "social genetics". Its all learnable.

There's one aspect of this whole article you failed to address...What if you're an ultra-geek like me?! ;-) Good information.

Very interesting stuff here. 5 stars!

"This is murder for shy people like me. " ---> Hey man. Read the text again. I was socially anxious to the point of phobia yet passed most of these phases. This is FOR shy people, not "for anything but. If you weren't, I'd just go directly to the last step. That's why you have progressive levels and steps.