Wonderful article. Very clear. Thank you.

I have just started going to therapy... it is hard to relive the past... I feel like no one else can relate, I do not like feeling so alone :( I know I am not alone, but sometimes I just cant help feeling that way

I'm new to this site - I thought my alters except for the child and 1 adult were integrated. The other week I recognized 3 others that sort of share consciousness. Right now I feel threatened by the work that will have to happen for more healing. I define healing as the forgiveness work and the cooperation needed to function. I have fibromyalgia along with DID and so I feel quite afraid that I will not have the energy to do what is needed to heal.

i was also abused by my father for many years ,,,, i am still dealing with a lot of stuff ,,,, i have to go to cousling for it and deal with a lot of depression because of the pain i have,, i am trying to do better by trying to help others that have been abused to ,,, i am 43 years old now and so i know how hard it is to let it go ,,,, so if anyone out there needs to talk some time just let me know ,,,, cause i have been there ,,,

I click on this article by accident. I have alot of friends that come from dsyfunctional familes and it helps better understand. Merry Christmas--next time add pictures to your steps to enhance your points I give you 8 stars

this article put into words what i didn't think anyone else understood. thanks! i am terrified of sex and have repressed my sexuality most of my life due to sadistic childhood sex abuse. trying to learn to look at it as a good thing. appreciate the tips.

Thanks for the wonderful information. I was mlested repeatedly as a child along with other types of abuse. I locked most of the memories away and had no Idea of what exactly happened to me until about a year ago when they all came rushing back. I feel numb inside. Like something is missing. I will definately pick up the book faith suggested!

Regarding 'Love others. When you show compassion to another person, it is only natural for that person to respond by being compassionate back to you. The more love you give away, the more love will come back to you.' This is not always the case and can lead to even more feelings of despair! Don't always expect to be loved back.

(continued) ...self esteem, which is the reason I never finished college and have drifted from job to job, yet she continues to put me down for it. I have been hearing her negativity and severe criticism and blame since I was two years old and now, at 42, it's still there! Today's fight resulted in me screaming back - exactly what she wants - and spending the entire day in tears with a headache and not able to eat because I'm upset. Well, here's what I realize now: a) I have no respect for her whatsoever, never have, so why do I let her get to me? Because she's my mother and she should be nicer to me. That's never gonna happen. And I don't respect her opinion to begin with, so I don't need to let it affect me so much. b) She has never ever acted like a mother to me, nor has my father, and my brother is waste as well. So, I have re-purposed the people in my life. My late aunt...

I can identify with Linda 1003, well, really, with most of the posters. I had a major blowout with my froot-loop of a "mother" today and finally realized that, at 42, I am still dependent on her, this time financially. I had to move back in with her because of the recession, and what makes it doubly horrible is that 3 years ago I came into $150,000 and now it's all gone because of excessive spending and bad decisions. I'm extremely angry with myself because I FINALLY had a once in a lifetime golden opportunity to get the woman out of my life forever and instead of doing that, squandered my fortune and as a result, here I am back on her sofa for God knows how long because I can't find a job. My mother has a perfect credit score and is miserly with her money, yet she never passed any of that on to me and has kept me financially dependent on her through the breakdown of my self-esteem,...