Being in the closet is not about PRIVACY, it is about SECRECY. Sexual Orientation is not about what goes on in the bedroom, which is a matter of privacy. It is about which gender of genders one is generally attracted to. Everyone has a sexual orientation, even those who may be celibate, whether by choice or circumstance, at any given point in their lives. Straight people do not try to hide their sexual orientation. They readily acknowledge their marital status, whether they have kids, talk openly about their social lives, etc. There was a time when some members of another oppressed group – Jews – would change their names and try to hide their status for fear of discrimination (unless they had too many "obviously Jewish" traits). Now the media has no problem "outing" those of Jewish heritage like Madeleine Albright. Sexual orientation is a basic human trait like height, hair color,