Flowers for a Jewish Funeral

Flowers for a Jewish funeral are not appropriate.

According to the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism in New York, Jewish tradition teaches that Jewish funeral rites are both scared and simple. Jews are typically not embalmed and are usually buried within three days of death. Other traditions for Jewish funerals differ from Christian burial services, including giving flowers as a memorial.

At the Funeral

The United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism says flowers are not appropriate at a Jewish funeral service. People typically do not view the body, nor is there music or singing.

For the Mourners

After a funeral, the family of the deceased typically sits Shivah, which is a seven-day mourning period. During this time, family members are encouraged not to work, attend school or take on other activities aside from mourning. Mirrors are covered in the house; both the decor and atmosphere are solemn. Flowers and plants are not appropriate gifts for mourners during this time.

In Lieu of Flowers

If the deceased left instructions for a memorial fund, such as a favored charity or trust, it is appropriate to send a gift of money to the fund. While it is not appropriate to bring flowers to Jewish families who are in mourning, friends and relatives may choose to bring food while the family is sitting Shivah. If you are not familiar with the family's dietary needs or restrictions, it is a good idea to check with them prior to bringing over any food.

References

• United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism: The Guide to Jewish Funeral Practice