Tips on How to Survive a Long Distance Relationship

Keeping a long-distance relationship alive can be difficult.

Whether it be for school, work, or family reasons, sometimes couples have to (or even choose to) live apart. In addition, with the advent of Internet dating, many couples are finding each other across distances of states and even in other countries. According to eHarmony, studies estimate that up to 4 million singles and 3 million married couples in the United States are in long-distance relationships. With so many couples engaging in long-distance relationships, many want to know how to keep their long-distance relationships strong.

Establish Rules

First, it's important that you are both on the same page about your relationship and that there are ground rules. For example, is the relationship exclusive, even when you are apart? You might think this is obvious, but a partner might not, so it's important that you both agree. In addition, what is the end goal of the relationship? Do you plan to someday live together, or will the long-distance relationship be permanent? How often do you want to visit each other while apart? While you might not be able to answer all of these questions, it's important that you both come to an agreement that is comfortable for you.

Keep Communication Fresh

It is important to keep the lines of communication open, but try not to make your communications too frequent. Although this might seem counter-intuitive, it's important to keep what communication you do have fresh and interesting. If you call everyday, conversations might start to feel like a "chore." Weekly calls allow you to update each other with interesting updates and really have something to say when you do call.

Take Turns When Visiting

When you visit each other, take turns going to each location. By visiting each other's homes, you can better integrate yourselves into each other's lives. In addition, by sharing the burden of travel, you can prevent resentment and feelings of unfairness from your partner.

Remember to Live Your Own Life

Activity is the key to keeping yourself from being unhappy when apart from your partner. Make sure that you have activities, friends, events and hobbies to keep you engaged with life. If you cut yourself off from social ties because you feel too "single" when active, you will only be hurting yourself and your partner because you will feel isolated and lonely. Use the long-distance relationship as an opportunity to build your own skills and interests.

References

• Frisky; 7 Ways To Survive A Long-Distance Relationship; Chelsea Kaplan; 09/03/2010
• eHarmony Advice: Long-Distance Relationship Survival Guide