Reasons for a Man to Turn Women Down
If you are a woman and a man turns you down, the rejection could have little to do with you. "It's not you, it's me" is a rather tired cliche, but it does have a lot of truth in it. A man may turn you down for a variety of reasons. Before you lose your self-esteem, think about why he may have turned you down, and you'll soon realize that you're not as distasteful as you think.
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Timing
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Men often don't want to be in serious relationship until they have other parts of their life in order. This varies from man to man, but some men like to have their career well underway, their car paid off or other things taken care of before they start dating someone seriously. So, a man may turn you down after a few dates not because he doesn't like you but rather because he doesn't want a serious relationship to get in the way of his other goals.
Neediness
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Most men don't like neediness or clinginess. You could be extremely nice, funny and beautiful, but if you are obsessed with being around him to the point of not having a life of your own, he may find you needy. This, in turn, could cause him to turn you down after a couple dates. If you exhibit neediness on your first meeting or date, he may turn you down immediately. So, if you are waiting to meet him and he's five minutes late, try to avoid texting him five times and calling him twice. He will probably not like this.
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Different Commitment Levels
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A man may not be as into you as you are into him. While men are not known for being intuitive, an MSN News article says that this is not always true -- men can often immediately sense when a woman is not "the one." So, if he senses that you are more committed to him than he is to you, then he may turn you down to spare your feelings. After all, it's not fair for him to date someone who's in "love" with him when he's only in "like" with her.
Homosexuality
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He may be gay. According to an NAFSA Rainbow SIG report, 2 to 10 percent of the U.S. population is gay, and not all gay men conform to stereotypes that make it obvious. Indeed, he may not consider you close enough for which to share this intimate part of his life; so he may not mention it to you. However, if you proposition him, he will turn you down -- if he's interested exclusively in other men. No amount of makeup, heels or personality will change his mind. You can, of course, be friends.
Too Attached
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A man will often turn a woman down if he's too attracted to her. Men fear getting hurt just as much as women do. A man will turn a woman down because he senses that he is going to fall to hard for her, thus leaving himself open for heartbreak. Some men are unwilling to give up that much control or power.
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