Ways to Teach a Kid Not to Judge Others

Children need to learn how to be accepting of others.

Teaching children the important concept of tolerance is no easy task. In today's world, children are bombarded with information and images that are broadcast as the ideal way to look, act and think. Because life may be set up as a popularity contest, it is important for parents and guardians to teach their children not to judge other people.

Explain the Importance of Diversity

To help your children understand the gravity of acceptance, you should begin with an open discussion communicating why judging others is harmful. Explain how the world is filled with different kinds of people of varying sizes, shapes and colors. The world is a very diverse place, and just because a person looks different does not mean he is a bad person or acts a certain way. Point out real-life examples, such as the coworker from India or the neighbor down the street who has relatives from China.

Observe What Your Child Does

Watching children during times of social interaction is another way to gauge how they feel about peers. A day trip to the park, for example, presents the perfect opportunity to observe. You should listen carefully and praise creativity when your child uses imagination to try out different roles. Many kids explore adult roles and how they expect adults to behave during playtime. They also reveal their beliefs about the culture in which they live. And accepting what your child says is one way to teach acceptance

Correct Unacceptable Behavior

If your child exhibits behavior that is intolerant of other people, correct immediately. Explain why believing that is not acceptable. Reinforce your stand on tolerating other people and why it is important to respect other people and get to know someone before you form an opinion. Another good idea is to help your children feel good about themselves, because children with higher self-esteem are more likely to be more tolerant of other people.

Set the Example

Perhaps the most important thing that a parent could do to teach children not to judge is to be the example that they want their kids to be. Be choosy of the types of movies and television programs that are viewed at home. Make sure you too have adapted a tolerant attitude toward others, because children adapt many of their own personal beliefs from their parents and guardians. When parents encourage tolerant attitudes and present model behavior, children will likely follow in their footsteps.

References

• Kids Health; How Can Parents Teach Tolerance?; January 2011
• Scholastic; Teaching Tolerance; Thomas Moore