Things You Should Know Before Moving in With Your Boyfriend

Make the move day a time for celebration.

Moving in with your boyfriend is an exciting step forward in your relationship. But like any big change, the start of cohabitation can be a nerve-wracking time. Sitting down with your boyfriend to talk about important issues that will affect your life as a couple a few weeks before the move will help you alleviate pre-move nerves. It will also ensure that your cohabitation gets off to a happy and respectful start.

Money

People often find it difficult to discuss money, but if you can be open and honest about this with your boyfriend before you move in together, it will prevent future conflict. Make a list of household expenses such as rent or mortgage payments, bills and groceries so that you can discuss how these will be paid for and the percentage each person will contribute. You may decide that you will split all expenses equally, or you may divide these according to your respective incomes. Choose a relaxed environment in which you feel comfortable discussing money, and work toward a system you are both happy with.

Household Chores

It makes sense to know your boyfriend's attitude to household chores before moving in together. If one of you is a slob and the other really house proud, think about how you will cope with this and take steps to avoid aggravation. Everyone has chores they hate, but with some negotiation you may be able to find chores that you and your boyfriend are happy to take responsibility for, allowing you to divide the work fairly.

Expectations

Be clear about what you expect from living together. Decide first of all what you expect from living together, then discuss this with your boyfriend. Talk about everything from how much quality time you will spend together to whether you recycle your newspapers. If this is a stepping-stone to engagement or marriage, acknowledge this to yourself and your partner. Understanding and accepting one another's expectations of cohabitation contributes to a relaxed and happy home environment.

Understand Each Other

It might seem like it goes without saying, but before moving in together, you need to be confident that you know one another well. Take time to discuss what you makes you happy and what upsets you. Knowing what values are important to your boyfriend will help you understand him better when you live together. Understanding how your partner reacts when he feels tired or stressed will help you relate to one another better and know how to react when times are difficult.

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