Questions to Ask a Future Husband
No one likes the feeling that they are trapped in a marriage they don't want. One way to avoid this is to ask your future husband the right questions. While asking where he sees himself in 10 years may seem cliché, it gives you an idea of what type of life he wants for himself and if it meshes with yours.
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Housing and Jobs
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Unless you cohabitate, once you marry, someone has to move. You may want to find a new place together. Knowing where you are going to live helps ease stress after the wedding. Ask your future husband if he wants to move, where he'd like to live and the pros and cons of his current home. He may own a house that won't sell in the current market or may need to break a lease. This also is when you should ask about jobs. You don't want to buy a house if neither of you plan to stay at your current jobs. In addition, is he willing to move to accommodate your job and are you willing to do the same?
Birth Control and Children
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Some couples change their forms of birth control after marriage. A woman may not want to stay on the pill for years, for example. Discuss when you plan to have children, if you want children, childcare options, who would stay home and other factors involving a family. The decision about children can affect birth control options. For example, if you both want a child, you can stop using it.
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Housework and Yard Work
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As stereotypical as it may sound, many couples argue over who does the dishes and vacuums. Establish the chores around the home early. For example, if you cannot cook but your husband can, he can cook dinner while you do the dishes. Split up the housework and yard work evenly to avoid fights. If one person starts to slack, the other needs to say something. If your future husband is steadfast in the belief that a woman cooks and cleans and you disagree, you may need to reconsider marriage. It only leads to fighting.
Goals
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Ask your future husband about his goals for the future. If he has dreams of traveling around the world, they may not coincide with your career path. In addition, ask what he's willing to do to help you accomplish your goals. For example, if you want to go back to school, is he willing to support you through it or would you support him if he decided to do the same?
Money
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Knowing each other's spending habits and credit history may seem intrusive, but it's vital. Two excessive spenders will probably have a harder time saving up for major purchases than savers. A saver also may have a problem with a spender using too much money. Look at each other's finances to come up with a plan about how to pay the bills. Some couples split the bills in half and pay out of their own accounts, while some pay a percentage of the bills based on their salaries. There are different ways to handle it, but the point is to agree on the method.
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