Violent Temper Tantrums in Children

Temper tantrums are common in children between the ages of 1 and 4.

A temper tantrum is described by WebMD as being an "unplanned display of anger." Temper tantrums are common in almost every child. Even the most mellow child can be triggered to become angry. Tantrums in and of themselves are not necessarily bad since they can be used to teach your child important lessons about patience and self-control, but there should be more concern when they become increasingly violent.

Causes

Frustration over not getting what they want can trigger a tantrum.

Extreme tiredness and/or stress can trigger a tantrum. This can happen during a relocation or vacation when the child's schedule is dramatically different. Children can also throw a fit when they feel they are not receiving enough attention, like at school or when visitors are at the house. The most common triggers include the occasions when the child does not want to do something, such as brush their teeth, go to bed and share with others.

Violent Temper Tantrums

Violent tantrums include the aspects of "normal" ones, such as whining, smacking, screaming and resisting adult intervention. When these combine with hitting other children or pets, doing bodily harm to his or herself (such as collapsing on the ground in a fit) or throwing objects around, it is considered a violent temper tantrum.

During the Violent Tantrum

Tantrums usually last no more than 2 or 3 minutes.

These tantrums can be embarrassing if they happen in public and also disturbing. They are even more difficult to handle as a teacher since you do not want one child to trigger the others. Luckily, there are some key things you can do during the tantrum. The number one thing is to keep calm. Spanking or yelling at the child will only make it worse. If it comes to it, just let the child blow off steam during his or her tantrum. If it becomes overly violent, hold the child and tell them that you love them and that you will help fix the behavior.

Think about the possible triggers that affected the child. If you sense growing discomfort in the child, bend down to eye level and calmly remind him or her to keep calm and relax. Try to explain the situation and have the child try to explain their feelings. Provide a toy or activity that will distract them from their discomfort.

Everyday Behavior Help

Prevent violent temper tantrums by doing just a few things. Reward children with positive comments when they are doing something good, such as sharing nicely with others. Do not leave wiggle room for a tantrum when you request a child to do something. Instead of asking if he or she wants to eat dinner say, "Please come to the table. Dinner is ready." Along with that, give the child a choice that grants some control and gives some options. For example ask, "Would you like to read a story or eat a snack first?"

If there are moments when you seriously consider that the violent tantrums are attributed to developmental issues, consult with your child's physician immediately.

References

• WebMD: Dealing with Temper Tantrums

Resources

• National Association of School Psychologists: Temper Tantrums - Guidlines for Parents