Japanese Dating Tips
You've just met a great person you'd like to date, but there are a few things about the person's dating culture that you don't understand. When your date is Japanese, you may find that the expectations and rules for romantic relationships are very different than you're used to seeing. Americans have a dating culture that is largely informal and spontaneous. Depending on how traditional your date is, you may find the Japanese style a bit more regimented and formal.
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The First Move
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In Japanese culture, it is often expected that the gentleman makes the first move, and some Japanese women prefer it that way. If you are dating a Japanese lady, be the first to introduce yourself and call for a date. Don't give the lady your number and wait for her to call you as she may consider this too aggressive. Likewise, if you are dating a Japanese man, give him your number and ask him to call as this lets him feel like he's in the driver's seat.
The Language
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One of the other ways that Japanese dating culture differs America's is in its use of language. We're not only talking about breaching the language barrier but specific elements of speech. Sarcasm, obscene jokes and cursing all create an informal and perhaps threatening environment for the Japanese women. She likely wants to be treated as a lady deserving of consideration and respect. Likewise, a woman who swears and makes gross jokes around a Japanese man may be considered ill-mannered and even promiscuous.
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Think "Cute"
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Japanese is a culture that thrives on "cute." Things that are little and adorable, such as kittens, tiny sculptures and mushy cards are likely to be very attractive to your date, especially if she is a woman. Don't think that going all macho is going to impress a Japanese girl. Show her that you are sensitive and understand her need for "cute." If you are dating a Japanese man, don't think that a girlish purse or hairstyle will be a turnoff; it may remind him of attractive girls in his native country.
Think Long Term
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At some point, your Japanese date is likely to want to settle down, possibly even sooner than someone in the American culture. Respect this, and be forthright and honest in your expectations with them. Remember that they may be experiencing pressure from family or friends to marry quickly and for good. If this is not what you want from a relationship, let them know right away.
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