Tips on Successful Relationships Between Fathers and Sons
The father and son relationship has many dynamics, and it can prove to be very ambivalent over time. Much depends on the age of the son; for instance, the teenage years for the son can be very confrontational and problematic. There are other factors, too, but regardless of your situation in life, there are ways to get the most out of the relationship and enjoy each other no matter what life may throw your way.
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Proper Guidance
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While it is true that fathers are responsible for disciplining their sons, as a rule they should try to play more of a nurturing role when it comes to the day-to-day routine. If you rule with a fear-provoking iron fist, then your relationship will become strained at best. It usually works better to focus on the principles the sons should abide by than to harp on a laundry list of "don'ts." Accentuate the positive.
Ever Present
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Simply put, a father needs to be there for his son. This extends beyond major events, such as graduations, birthdays, holidays and sporting events. It also is an everyday thing that includes spending time with him on a regular basis. More often than not, a father's advice is usually both valued and respected, and it is vital that a dad is there to dole out his guidance and take on things.
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Forgiveness
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Forgiveness is a two-way street; both the father and the son need to embrace it since no one is perfect. A dad that forgives and gives the benefit of the doubt can make his son want to please him that much more, as opposed to becoming bitter and spiteful. On the flip side, sons need to realize that their fathers are humans who make mistakes, and that they want what's best for them, regardless of any shortcomings.
Communication
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Sons sometimes have a tendency to withdraw as both they and their fathers get older. The thinking is usually something to the effect that Dad wouldn't understand. This can be frustrating to the father since he would love to reach out to his son, but the more he tries, the less he succeeds. Sons should remember that their fathers were their age once, and there is a good chance they know exactly how you feel about a given situation.
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