Signs of a Dangerous Relationship
A dangerous relationship can involve or lead to abuse. The abuse can be in many forms, such as psychological, emotional, sexual, financial or physical. Abuse also can involve intimidation, threats or isolation. It is important to know the signs of a dangerous relationship, particularly if you have experienced relationship problems in the past. Remember there is no excuse for abusing someone. Whether the abuse is triggered by drugs, alcohol, stress or anger, abusive behavior is a choice, according to the Stanford University website.
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Warnings from Loved Ones
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It may be difficult to recognize the warning signs or "red flags" of a dangerous relationship if you are in the middle of it. One of the first signs may be that your family, friends or an acquaintance warns you about the behavior of the person. They may mention that the person is controlling, self-centered or possessive in your relationship. Someone may hesitate to say anything, but if you get subtle or more obvious warnings from more than one person, take heed.
Identify Your Feelings
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If you hate to disagree with your partner because it makes him angry, this may be a sign of a dangerous relationship. If you feel that you always have to tiptoe around to protect his feelings or to prevent feeling the wrath of his guilt-producing disappointment, this too is a sign that your relationship is not a healthy one. Partners who often pressure you into doing something you do not want to do or you don't feel comfortable doing is another sign.
Partner Behavior
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Listen to the way your partner treats you and others in public and in private. If she is constantly belittling, humiliating or embarrassing you in front of others or when you are alone, this is a sign of emotional abuse and signals danger in the relationship. Ask your friends and family if they sense anything "off" in your relationship. They may have been wanting to say something about it for a while but were hesitant to do so because you seemed so happy.
Responsibility
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A partner who always blames everyone else for his disappointments, failures or problems is not a healthy, mature individual. If your partner tries to convince you that if only you would change, the relationship would blossom and everything would be just fine, this is a sign of danger. A mutually respectful relationship is one where both parties realize each has his own faults and weaknesses. If you find yourself constantly trying to change yourself and to be a better person because your partner blames you for the relationship problems, it is time to take an introspective look into the real problems.
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