Relationship Advice on Trust Issues
Trust develops slowly over time. It is hard to earn, and it not easily recovered when it is lost. Trust is one of the most important qualities in all relationships. People who have trust issues mistrust because of the violations of trust in their past. It is important to work to resolve trust issues through honest communication about feelings, needs and the development of self-love.
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Accepting Your Trust Issues
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Acknowledge that you have trust issues. Accept that your trust issues are preventing you from enjoying fruitful relationships with others. Understand that fostering mistrust, suspicion, jealousy and anger wastes your energy and often creates self-fulfilling prophecies.
Open Communication
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Talk about your trust issues with your friends, family and partner. Open communication is one of the first steps in resolving mistrust. Be honest about your feelings and fears. Freely express your needs to those with whom you are in a relationship, and be open to listening to what they have to say.
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Letting Go of the Past
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Let go of past hurts and betrayals. Accept them, acknowledge what they have done to you and try to release them with forgiveness. Letting go of the past frees you to live in the present moment without the baggage of past hurts and fears. Holding onto the past keeps you trapped in a cycle of fear and prevents you from moving forward with your life.
Develop Self-Love
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The root of mistrust ultimately comes from lack of self-esteem and self-love. Deep down inside you do not believe you are deserving of trusting honest relationships and love. Spend quality time with yourself. Do things that you love and that make you feel better about yourself. Taking a class, exercising, spending time with friends and traveling helps you come into yourself and realize your own value. Realize that you deserve loving, honest relationships. Know that they exist and come into your life when you are ready to receive them.
Trust Yourself
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Learn to trust yourself and your instincts. Learn to recognize people and relationships that are unhealthy and avoid them. Trust that you are capable of making the right decisions for your own life. In the worst case scenario if you are betrayed by a loved one or business partner, know that you are strong enough to survive and recover.
Counselor or Therapist
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Seek the professional advice of a counselor or therapist. Professional therapists serve as a mirror to help you recognize your thought patterns. They are guides that can help you see the reasons why you have developed mistrust and can get down to the root of your issues. From there, you work together to gradually heal your past wounds and become a stronger more trusting individual.
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