Pros and Cons of a Boyfriend as a Roommate
It might seem like a dream come true if you find yourself faced with the temptingly convenient option of moving in with your boyfriend. For many couples, cohabitation can bring mutually enjoyable security and advance the relationship; however, for others, the living arrangement ends in disaster. To figure out which is the more likely scenario for you and your boyfriend, consider some of the common pros and cons of living together first.
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"Practice" for Life
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Living with your boyfriend is much like it would be to live with him in a committed relationship. This brings your relationship into a whole new level of serious, whether the two of you are ready for it or not. You'll no longer be able to take breaks from one another, and you'll have to learn to deal with each other's small day-to-day habits, sharing in every aspect of your lives. Whether this is a pro or a con depends on how ready both of you are for this serious move. If you're not at the point of really contemplating spending your lives together, this living arrangement could end badly.
Sharing Finances
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When you're living with your boyfriend, you can share finances in a way you wouldn't with other roommates. The two of you might not be ready yet for fully shared finances, but you can negotiate some degree of sharing that might at least be more fluid than what you would have with platonic housemates. Be sure to spell out exactly what your living arrangements will be and what you expect from each other, so you aren't fighting over finances.
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Romance and Intimacy
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Living together brings advantages and disadvantages in the area of romance and physical intimacy. On one hand, you'll have the opportunity to be together a lot more often than before and in a private environment, especially if the two of you were previously living with other roommates or family. On the other hand, you may find that spending so much time together kills some of the romance and novelty in your relationship.
Breaking Up
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One of the great disadvantages of living with a boyfriend occurs when you break up before your lease is up. You'll both still be jointly responsible for rent, meaning you may have to keep living together until you can find new places and, in most cases, find new tenants to take over your lease. This situation can make a breakup extra difficult by causing the process to drag out when you'd rather end the relationship quickly.
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