Etiquette on Exchanging Engagement Gifts

Exchanging engagement gifts differs from couple to couple.

Engagement is a special time for a couple, because they have decided to build their lives together, even if they haven't taken that plunge to get married yet. It is practical to give someone an engagement gift if you hear they are getting married, especially if they have a party. But the etiquette for the engaged couple to exchange gifts is a little different.

Traditional Etiquette

Traditional etiquette says that engaged couples should buy each other some sort of small token to solidify their engagement. This may mean engagement rings, but it also might mean a gift above and beyond rings. Traditional gifts might include a framed engagement photo of yourselves, another piece of jewelry, or a small knickknack or token the other can keep forever.

Modern Ideas

In modern times, it is less expected to give each other engagement gifts, because you will be showered with gifts from other people, and are probably busy planning your wedding anyway. Don't expect that your fiance will get you one unless you've talked about it, because typically these gifts aren't just given out. Talk about it first and make sure you are on the same page. Some modern couples decide to buy something together to celebrate their engagement, like a new television or piece of furniture.

Monetary Concerns

Just because it is tradition doesn't mean you need to do it. If you and your fiance are having financial difficulties, it might not be smart to spend money on gifts. You already know that you are marrying each other because you want to, and that should be all that matters. The rings were probably expensive anyway, so there is no real need to get an engagement gift if neither of you think its a good idea. Talk about it with your partner so you are on the same page.

Take Into Account Wedding Plans

Sometimes an engagement is a quick stop on the way to a wedding. If the wedding is a large, traditional affair, you should exchange engagement gifts according to tradition. However, if you are getting engaged quickly and then eloping, you don't need to exchange gifts because you aren't taking the traditional path. The less traditional your wedding is, the less needed engagement gifts are.

References

• Knowledge Galaxy: Engagement Gift Ideas