Qualities of a Healthy Committed Relationship

Communication is at the heart of a healthy, committed relationship.

Healthy, committed relationships, whether you are married, dating or friends, have a level of depth to them and require give and take from both parties. You make a choice to stay in the relationship, not only when it's enjoyable but also when times are tough, and you may have to give more than you receive.

Conscious Attention

Distractions are unavoidable, but to nurture your relationships you must be fully present to listen, touch and make eye contact with the other person. Take the time to turn off the television and listen to your loved one. Turn off the radio when you drive your friend to the airport. Take these opportunities to give her your full attention and strengthen the bond between the two of you. The ongoing connection needs your attention to thrive.

Respect and Gratitude

Communicate in a respectful manner. Talk to your friends and loved ones about what interests them. Listen to them without judgment and wait until they are finished before responding. Touch your loved ones often and let them know how grateful you are for their presence in your life.

Trust

Healthy, committed relationships are built on trust, which comes from learning through the other's actions that he keeps his word by doing what he says he'll do or listens to you without judgment or criticism. Trust allows for deeper communication, which enables you to grow closer to the other person. The more you confide in the other and feel safe with him, the more likely you are to open your heart and deepen the bond. Trust is fragile and must always be respected. You also must trust in yourself to allow the relationship to grow and develop in its own time.

Activities

Make time to spend time together doing something you both enjoy doing. The memories you create together will help you in times of distress down the road. Having fun together will deepen your connection. Leave the daily stress behind and head to the beach for the day or take that trip you have been dreaming about. It could be as simple as going for an evening walk together. Play a game together and the conversation will soon be flowing. Join your wife when she's picking out flowers for the garden or help your friend paint his house. Even daunting tasks can turn into moments of deeper connection. Don't let the small opportunities to deepen your bond pass by.

References

• Relationship Institute: Essential Qualities of Healthy Realtionships
• Employee Assistance: Characteristics of a Healthy and Enjoyable Friendship or Dating Relationship

Resources

• University of Maryland, Baltimore: Qualities of a Healthy Marriage