How to Know if You Want to Work on the Relationship
When frequent arguments and waning feelings creep into a relationship, a romantic history and familiarity won’t be enough to hold it all together. There are several other factors to consider when deciding whether or not your relationship is worth salvaging. If you or your partner aren't prepared to reach compromises, you may want to settle back into the single life.
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Time for Each Other
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A little time and distance apart can strengthen the bond between two people. However, too much separation can cause those romantic feelings to wane. If you and your partner rarely have time to see each other, designate a night of the week for routine dates. An unwillingness to set time aside or a failure to keep these dates are signs to move on.
Future Plans
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Not all couples agree on the future. For example, you may want to get married sooner than your partner does, or vice versa. In a lasting relationship, both partners will find a way to compromise or find a middle ground on making decisions for the future. If both partners are determined to stick to their own future plans, there may be no choice but to end the relationship.
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Frequent Arguments
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While you may disagree with your partner on many points, the way you argue can demonstrate the health of a relationship. Aim to remain respectful even in the midst of an argument. If arguing leads to verbal or physical abuse, seek therapy or call an end to the union. Lack of compromise and an unwillingness to see the other’s perspective during a debate are also signs of poor communication skills.
Boredom
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In many cases, boredom doesn’t necessary have to spell the end of the relationship. Instead, take it as a sign you both need to engage in new activities to spice up the usual routine. Yet if you or your partner can’t find the motivation to seek new thrills, it’s time to end the relationship.
Interest in Others
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If you suspect that your partner is cheating, be sure that your evidence is not a fabrication of your own worries. End the relationship only if your partner has indeed broken your trust. Give your partner a second chance if you wish, but don't tolerate repeated infidelity. If you’re the one who has taken an interest in another person, weigh your feelings for your current partner against those for the other person before calling an end to the current relationship.
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