Guidelines for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

Make your vows personal and passionate for your wedding day.

The idea of writing your own wedding vows may strike fear in the heart of either yourself or your spouse. However, original vows add a personal touch that cannot be outdone by tradition at many nuptials. Writing vows is not difficult, once you have a few basic guidelines. Reserve an evening or two out of your busy schedule where you can be alone, and go to a quiet, reflective location to compose what you’d like to say. Then, start writing by asking yourself some common questions that will jumpstart your creativity and romantic side.

Remembering the Past

Look through photographs or other mementos you have from your relationship. Jot down on a piece of paper the different memories that come to mind while looking at these things. They can be funny, touching, sad, romantic – just write down anything that comes to mind. Capture as many of these fragmented thoughts as you can.

Sharing the Heart

Try to write a letter to your fiancé. Put out of your mind the idea of anyone else hearing the words you are writing, instead focusing only on you and your spouse. When the letter is complete, walk away from it for a few hours and then re-read it, underlining any portion of the letter you may be able to use for your public vows.

Ask Questions

Ask yourself questions that will jumpstart the vow writing. What do you love most about your fiancé? How did you meet? What do you hope to accomplish together in the future? If these were the last words you would ever say to your fiancé, what would you want them to be? Also consider your personal religious faith or cultural heritage, as you may be able to incorporate a verse, quote or traditional saying into your vows.

Keep it Real

Say your vows out loud to yourself and eliminate anything that does not sound original or authentic. If you are naturally a sentimental person, do not try to be a comedian. Likewise, if you’re known as the funny one in your group of friends, don’t think you have to eliminate the laughs. Most guests at a wedding will agree that humor goes a long way. You may also consider timing yourself reading the vows once they are complete. If they go too long (over five minutes), consider shortening them. You can always share further statements of love to your partner in private or at a toast during the reception.

References

• Write Wedding Vows: Original Wedding Vows - Written By You!