Things a Groom Needs to Do Before Getting Married
A groom-to-be in an upcoming wedding may feel he has done his duty after he proposes and the woman says yes. Although the average bride-to-be enjoys planning the wedding and requests little input, the groom still has several responsibilities. His involvement in planning the wedding will ease his fiance's burden for the big day ahead.
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Selecting the Best Man and Groomsmen
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Before the wedding, a groom should choose a best man and groomsmen. Many men choose their brother or best friend as the best man. The groom’s cousins, relatives and friends can serve as the groomsmen, as can male members of the bride’s family.
Attire and Wedding Rings
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After consulting with the bride about attire, the groom must decide whether to rent or purchase a tuxedo. He then discusses attire with the best man and groomsmen, who may be responsible for purchasing their own clothing. The groom’s attire should stand out from the other men's clothes. The groom also purchases the wedding bands and may have them engraved.
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Honeymoon Plans
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Unless the groom plans a surprise, he and the bride should discuss where they want to have their honeymoon. However, the groom makes the necessary arrangements. He plans the mode of travel, hotel accommodations and activities for the couple based on what they both enjoy. All plans should be made well in advance of the wedding to avoid worrying about them as the ceremony approaches.
Vows and Toasts
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If the groom lacks writing skills, he should brush up on the technique. He may need to write his vows if he and his bride have agreed not to use traditional vows. He should give a brief toast or speech after the wedding and should prepare his thoughts beforehand. The purpose of the groom’s toast is to acknowledge his bride and her parents and assure them that he will care for his new wife. He also thanks members of the wedding party. The toast or speech should last just a few minutes.
Other Duties
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Many decisions -- from flower selection to choosing a caterer for the reception -- will arise, and the groom should be prepared to help wherever he is needed. The bride likely will appreciate it if he offers his assistance. In addition, the groom should compile a list of the people he wants to invite to the wedding and share his preferences for music. He may arrange for the marriage license, plan the rehearsal dinner, arrange lodging for out-of-town guests and purchase a gift for his bride.
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