What Are Some Ways to Show Humility?

Humble pie tastes better than prolonged pain.

In any relationship, there are moments when one person causes injury to someone he cares for through hurtful words and actions. While the past cannot be erased, practicing opportunities to show humility helps repair damaged relationships and restore trust.

Apologize

A sincere and specific apology goes a long way in repairing damaging words and hurt feelings between two people. Saying "I'm sorry" is not enough, however. You must tell the person what you regret and indicate you have given the matter thought by presenting ways you plan to prevent the problem from happening again. You can write out a draft of what you plan to say before speaking with the offended person, but show true humility by stating your apology in person.

Put Yourself Last

Always consider the needs of your friend, date, spouse, child or parent before your own. This includes small gestures, such as not drinking the last soda in the fridge, and major commitments, such as a willingness to move because your spouse is hired for a job in another state. Remember, it is not enough to do these things without the right attitude. Show humility by refusing to complain about any personal sacrifice and, more importantly, rejoicing in the fact that you are meeting the other person's needs.

Accept Advice

It is natural for one's pride to be hurt when receiving suggestions or criticism, especially from a loved one. In these situations, it is important to consider things from the other person's perspective. The person may feel comfortable sharing these comments because he believes your relationship is close enough to be more honest with each other. The person knows you well, and may be suggesting something he believes you would enjoy more based on interests you have mentioned or exhibited during your relationship. Show humility by accepting the advice and thanking the person for his honesty.

Respond Graciously

If you have been wronged by a loved one who apologizes for hurtful behavior, show humility by accepting the apology and forgiving the wrongdoing immediately, rather than boosting your own ego by holding the past over someone's head. In an argument in which you are certain you are right, be humble enough to realize the relationship is more important than who is correct, and end the fight by conceding the point, if there are no major stakes involved. Even if you are proven right later, do not dwell on the subject.

References

• Less Than Him: 6 Ways to Show Humility
• Voice of One Crying: Humility