Tips on Making Your Husband Feel Special

One common theme in virtually every contented couple is mutual support.

When spouses feel valued, they possess the interest and energy for making the marriage work. It doesn't take a bundle of money or time to make your husband feel special. Simple words and actions are the cornerstone to building toward healthy marital bliss.

Pay Attention

Ask about his day. It may sound trite, but paying attention to what's going on in your husband's life is a genuine display of your love. Your interest makes him feel special. Be specific with your questions. Become familiar with the nuances of his world and the people he interacts with every day. Once he's aware of your interest and attention, he'll share more about himself and feel closer to you.

Have His Back

Of course you'll be there for your husband if he's ill, struck by tragedy or in a bind, but there are other ways to show your loving support. Listen to his concerns. If you think the situation warrants it, offer feedback and ask if you can do something to help. Take over a chore if he's exhausted or consumed by another task. Step in for him if he can't attend to a family member or friend in need.

Show Your Appreciation

Be mindful of the little things your husband does for you as well as the larger contributions he makes to your home, family and marriage. We all need frequent affirmations to feel valued and inspired. Tell him how his efforts support you and acknowledge your man's actions with actions of your own. Random hugs and kisses, a special dinner or occasionally doing one of his chores reminds him that you don't take him for granted.

Praise His Character

Think about what you admire about your husband's character. Is he friendly, smart, funny or helpful? Is he a pillar of your community, great with the kids or loving to his parents? Let him know. Catch him being his unique self and compliment him on it. Whether you tell him in person, pick up the phone or send a text, let him know that you know what a great catch he was -- and still is.

Keep It Interesting

It's easy to fall into a routine, and before you know it, you're in a marital rut. And though you may not discuss it, your husband may be feeling it, too. Reassure him that you think of your future together, and it's not all about jobs, kids and mortgage payments. Suggest taking a class, planning an unusual vacation or taking on a project together. Implementing change can add depth to your relationship as you rediscover each other in new settings.

References

• "5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great"; Terri L. Orbuch, Ph.D; 2009

Resources

• "What Makes a Man Feel Loved: Understanding What Your Husband Really Wants"; Bob Barnes; 2006