Infatuation Vs. Married Love

Learn the difference between infatuation and true love to experience happiness.

When two people enter into marriage, each makes a promise to the other to show love and provide support forever. Marriage provides the building blocks for a family that lasts for generations. People who are infatuated are attracted to each other based on information learned in a short amount of time. The attraction has not had the chance to develop into deep love as with marriage.

Committment

Infatuation is based on liking someone for a short amount of time but not knowing enough about the person to claim real love. The affection may fade quickly, causing you to turn your attention toward someone else. Infatuation is fleeting. True married love requires commitment and work. You trust that you will spend the rest of your life with your spouse and commit your time and energy to making the relationship last and thrive.

Compromise

When two people are truly in love, each must learn to compromise. In a successful marriage the spouse supports the dreams and wishes of his partner and is willing to compromise even if he does not fully agree. Compromise is built on trust. You trust that your spouse will not do anything to hurt you or ruin the relationship. When you are infatuated or have a crush on someone, you have not entered into a relationship to learn the art of compromise. You may make the mistake of letting your feelings get in the way of proper judgment and allow the other person to take control; there is a difference between compromise and taking advantage of the situation.

Conflicts

Conflicts arise with married couples, which is common when two people share a household. The married couple must learn to compromise to reach understandings. A spouse does not simply give up the marriage over a conflict without trying to find a solution. Infatuation is not as strong; there is no bond with infatuation. The couple does not have any investments in the relationship to try to make it last.

Physical Attraction

The initial attraction begins by admiring the person's physical beauty before getting to know the person's character. Emotions felt when infatuated are not strong enough to last like those experienced with marital love. Married couples understand that there is more substance to love other than appearance. The physical attraction may fade in a marriage, but each spouse has to love other things about his partner, like personality and engaging conversations.

References

• Self Creation: Is What I'm Feeling Infatuation of Love?