What Is the Trust Breaker?
A trust breaker, sometimes called a deal breaker, is an action taken by one person in a relationship that cannot be overlooked. The trust breaker damages the trust between two people to the extent that it is irreparable. There are numerous trust breakers or deal breakers possible. What constitutes a trust breaker is subjective and varies according to the beliefs of the parties involved as well as any understanding -- written, spoken or implied -- between two or more people.
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Setting Boundaries
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Setting boundaries in any relationship, personal or business, is the best way to establish those circumstances that will be considered deal or trust breakers. In business, contracts typically spell out these circumstances. In personal relationships, these circumstances are often unspoken or implied. The marriage vows usually spell out some of the circumstances that would lead to a breakdown of trust. In relationships, open communication between those involved is the best way to gain a clear understanding of your partner's needs. This can give important information regarding where your partner will draw the line.
Professional
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A deal breaker or trust breaker in business is typically a move that is unethical on a business level or in direct violation of something written in a contract. Sharing company secrets with business rivals is one example of a deal breaker. Stealing from the company you work for is another. These are violations that place severe inability of another party (your employer or client) to establish trust in you again. A write who plagiarizes someone's work would destroy the trust of his readers. They could never believe another word he wrote. This is another example of a professional trust breaker.
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Relationships
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In relationships, whether they are romantic or not, there are many implied trust breakers. If someone tells a friend a secret and swears the friend to secrecy, and the friend immediately shares the secret, this is a trust breaker. The person telling the secret will likely not be able to trust her friend with another secret. This, however, may not be serious enough to lead to the downfall of the friendship. On the other hand, a spouse who cheats is breaking the vows of the marriage and this is a serious violation of trust that will likely lead to the dissolution of the marriage. Even if the marriage survives, odds are good the trust factor will be severely damaged. Lying or hiding facts about your past life that can harm the person you are in a relationship with is also a violation of trust.
Avoiding Violations of Trust
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Complete honesty is the only sure way to avoid violating someone's trust. There's more to it than that. The actions you take in your everyday life might also lead to violations of trust, no matter how forthright you are in admitting to your mistakes. Cheating on a spouse will likely not be forgiven completely, even if you immediately tell your spouse you've done it. Do the best you can to treat others with the same respect, moral actions and professional courtesy you want to be treated with. Living your life on these terms can help you gain the same trust and respect from those you deal with in your life.
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