Narcissists believe the world revolves around them. People with narcissistic personalities tend to be charming individuals, but the charm is used as a means to an end. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder tend to be dangerous individuals to deal with. There are many reasons why you might want to describe a narcissist to someone else. You could be writing a paper or a psychologist talking with colleagues. Whatever your reason, there are several points you will want to make when talking about people with narcissistic personalities.
State that narcissists believe they are special and unique, to the point they are above all others. A narcissist thinks he should be given special treatment or gifts just for being himself. He will expect things to go his way and could become angry or volatile if they don't. The Mayo Clinic points out people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder expect constant praise and admiration.
State that narcissists are preoccupied with their life and fantasies about their life. According to the Mayo Clinic, people with NPD commonly fantasize about power, success and attractiveness. Many narcissists are preoccupied with their looks, money or personal belongings. Narcissists will brag about all they have and continue to attempt to acquire more to boost their ego. Narcissists believe in their own success (even if it is non-existent) and will frequently put others down to bring themselves up.
State that narcissists have a sense of entitlement and believe they can do what they want, when they want to do it. They do not consider the feelings of other people around them and will act accordingly. They are the people who will take the last slice of pizza without asking or put their feet on your coffee table with a smug look on their face, just because they think they can. People with NPD expect others to go along with their ideas and could become angry when people criticize them or refuse to follow along with their plans.
State that narcissists are conceited. They believe they are the best of the best and no one can compare to them. A narcissist thinks he is the best looking, has the best car, the most money and the greatest wife. He will walk around as if he is better than anyone around him and may even put people down or make fun of what they have in an attempt to make himself feel even bigger and better than he already does. According to the Mayo Clinic, a person with NPD will tend to believe you are jealous of him and covet his lifestyle or belongings.
State that narcissists will exploit others for personal gain. They will use people for what they have or what they can do for them. For example, if you are good with computers, a narcissist may have you "help" him with a computer project only to take full credit for it when the time comes. Narcissists have no problem taking advantage of others or exploiting people for personal gain. Confronting a narcissist will do no good, as he will simply ignore you or lie to your face.
State that narcissists are arrogant and haughty people. They will put down others for their own personal gain and walk around as if they are better than others. They will talk to you in a condescending tone of voice and act as if you owe them something. Narcissists will display rude behaviors to those around them and act as if this is completely normal and you are the one with a problem.
State that narcissists lack empathy or the ability to understand what another person is feeling or thinking. Most narcissists are capable of empathy but are so caught up in their own lives and world they fail to believe another person could have feelings, or that those feelings matter. They have no problem hurting other people and rarely apologize.
Tips & Warnings
- Some people might confuse NPD with having a high-self esteem or self-confidence. However, according to the Mayo Clinic, NPD crosses the line between what is healthy and unhealthy in terms of self-esteem and confidence. People with NPD put themselves above all others at the expense of someone else's feelings.