How to Encourage Shy Kids to Talk
Shyness can be frustrating to deal with as a parent since it often prevents a child from participating in activities despite his desire to join. Being shy does not mean he will grow up having problems later in life, but you can support a shy child in several different ways. Providing him with conversation skills can help him deal with a range of situations.
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Invite your child to talk to you. Height differences mean it is easy for a shy child to feel intimidated. Be at the same level when you talk to her; bend down, or let her sit on your lap to converse.
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Arrange a calm and quiet environment. Many shy children use a soft voice, and it may be difficult to hear them if you talk in a noisy environment. Pay attention to what he is saying, and look into his eyes. Eye contact is a way to show respect, even if a shy child may avoid it. Keep role-modeling eye contact by seeking it with him until he is comfortable with it.
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Talk about things that have happened during the day. Find out as much as possible from her teacher or other parents. This helps you to start the conversation and to understand her. Make these conversations light-hearted or exciting. Ask her to mention a funny or exciting thing that took place during the day. Alternately, ask her to mention something she learned.
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Engage with people when you do your daily errands with your child, such as shopping. Let him accept receipts from cashiers, and say "thank you" together. Gradually, let him thank the cashier by himself.
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Take turn reading books and rhymes. Let her know that a strong and clear voice gives the impression that she is confident. Repeating words helps a child to focus on her voice, so learn rhymes together. Let older children take turn reading short sections in books, and let them use different voices to make each character distinct.
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Invite his friends over to play since a shy child feels more confident at home. Talk to his friend when he arrives, and role model how you use conversations starters when you meet someone. Alternately, plan a play day at the other child's home, and bring your child's toys with you. This will make him feel more at home.
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