How to Deal With an Obsessed Ex-Boyfriend
After a break up, you and your ex-boyfriend may have difficulty letting go of the relationship that was so important to you. However, if your ex-boyfriend is taking the loss one step further and becoming obsessed with talking to you, seeing you and being close to you, the situation can become intimidating and annoying. Remember that people have different meanings for the word "obsessed," so finding out what the term means to you plays an important role in mending the situation.
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Consider the emotional pain and struggle your ex-boyfriend is going through right now. Determine whether or not the obsessive behavior you are experiencing is causing you to feel threatened and scared or whether it is simply an annoyance. Remember that everyone handles pain and loss differently.
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Ask for the opinions of your own friends and family members as well as friends and family members of your ex-boyfriend. Remember to keep as many of your private details to yourself to respect your ex-boyfriend's privacy. Getting other people's opinions will help give you an outsider's perspective on the issue.
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Communicate with your ex-boyfriend calmly and respectfully. Let him know that his obsessive behavior is driving you further and further away from him. Ask him if there is anything you can do to help him get over the break up. Be sure to emphasize your need for personal emotional space.
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Ignore the obsessive behavior as much as possible. Don't answer calls or text messages if you don't want to. Don't agree to meet with him for one last talk about your relationship. Focus on yourself and doing things you enjoy, instead of focusing on his obsession with you.
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Contact the authorities if the obsession is making you feel threatened or unsafe. You may also need to change your phone number and email address if he refuses to stop trying to contact you.
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