How to Deal With a Harassing Boss

Some bosses harass through bullying behavior.

Bosses can harass their employees in many ways. Some are simply bullies, calling their employees names or even making physically threatening gestures. Some are micro-managers who are constantly looking over your shoulder, making it difficult to complete even the most simple of tasks. Other bosses harass employees sexually through crude remarks, sexual suggestions or inappropriate touching. If your boss is harassing you, don't assume the situation will improve on its own; take control.

Instructions

1. Keep a written record of harassing behaviors and comments. List the date, time and exact thing your boss said or did that you found objectionable or harassing.

2. Try to resolve matters with your boss directly. Speak with him or her privately when you are both calm and have time to talk. Do not force the conversation immediately after an incident has taken place when emotions are running high. Calmly tell your boss which specific behaviors make you uncomfortable and suggest alternatives; for example, "If you need to criticize me, please do it privately and not in front of my staff."

3. Go to the human resources department or to your boss' supervisor. Bring along your written record of problem behaviors and be ready to offer reasonable solutions. You might, for instance, ask if you could transfer to another department or if you could report directly to your boss' superior.

4. Be prepared to leave if necessary. No matter how much tact and finesse you use, some situations simply cannot be resolved. In those cases, it's better to move on to another opportunity than to put up with working for a boss who makes you miserable.

Tips & Warnings

• Avoid yelling at your boss or showing any other sign of insubordination. Your boss can use that kind of behavior against you.

• If you are too upset to discuss a problem with your boss immediately, arrange to meet at a later time. ("I need some time to think about this. Can I get back with you this afternoon?")

• Call the police if your boss becomes verbally or sexually aggressive. You have the right to be safe at work.

• Avoid sharing your problems with co-workers and encouraging them to take sides. This type of behavior makes is look like you are the troublemaker.

References

• The Washington Post: Horrible Bosses and How to Deal with Them
• LiveMint: Are you Being Hounded by a Boss from Hell?
• The Times of India: The Boss is Not Always Right