How to Deal With Inconsiderate Men

Inconsiderate men start out as inconsiderate boys.

Inconsiderate people can plague every part of your life. Their selfish behavior means you need to put more effort into shared tasks, which the inconsiderate person will likely not appreciate. It is not a good idea to just accept this inconsiderate behavior. Rather, you need to take key steps to make sure inconsiderate men know exactly how they've offended you and what they need to do in the future to avoid its happening again.

Instructions

1. Tell the man in question when he is being inconsiderate. Inconsiderate people are not often inconsiderate out of malice. Rather, they are simply oblivious to the fact that they are being so rude. So, when a man does something to you that you think is inconsiderate, point it out in a calm, non-confrontational manner.

2. Gently remind him that he's not perfect. Inconsiderate behavior is sometimes a case of ego; people are inconsiderate because they think there is no way they could possibly be wrong. So, if he's being stubborn and inconsiderate, tell him (again, in a non-confrontational manner) that he may not be correct all the time.

3. Ask him to practice being considerate on a regular basis. Considerate behavior, like inconsiderate behavior, is a habit. By practicing either of them regularly, you are changing the frameworks around which habits -- good and bad -- are built.

4. Model considerate behavior yourself. People, male and female, respond to the behaviors that the people around them show. So, if you are often talking about considerate behavior and also practicing what you preach, the men around you will be motivated to also be more considerate.

References

• Lifescript; How to Deal with Inconsiderate People; Wendy Travis; Jan. 16, 2008
• Zen Habits; 5 Tiny Steps to Quit Being Such a Jerk; Leo Babauta