How to Tame Your Toddler

Explain the proper way to behave, repeatedly if necessary.

Toddlers and fits seem to go hand-in-hand as a result of their behavioral changes during this stage in their lives. If you have a toddler who has gotten somewhat out of control, the frustration can be overwhelming. It is important to note that the toddler is frustrated as well, hence the acting out. As they get to this stage in life, they begin to show independence and when told they can't do something, they act out in the form of what is referred to as a "temper tantrum." While you may not be able to avoid this, you can tame it through a variety of methods.

Instructions

1. Communicate with your toddler before going out in public, to an event or doing any sort of activity. Discuss the proper way to behave and why it is important, such as for the child's safety. Also reiterate what the discipline or punishment will be for bad behavior or unnecessary tantrums, as well as any type of reward for acting appropriately. Be specific with what you will or will not tolerate.

2. Be realistic about your expectations; kids at this age are very intelligent and aware of their surroundings, but are still growing and developing. Take her learning capabilities and understanding into account.

3. Move your toddler to a more private setting during a fit or tantrum and allow him time to let out the anger or frustration. Sometimes kids just need a moment to get it all out before they become calm. Ignore the fits on occasion so as to not give him the attention he might be trying to get out of you.

4. Be consistent with your discipline and punishment for bad behavior such as having temper tantrums, being aggressive with other children and other undesirable actions. Follow through with your discipline and be sure that your spouse, babysitter and any friend or family member who spends time with her acknowledges your form of discipline such as putting her in the corner for time out.

5. Say "no" sternly to your toddler when he behaves badly or aggressively and send him to time out. You want to make the point that what he is doing is wrong without being aggressive yourself, as this will set a bad example.

6. Reward good behavior often to reiterate the importance of behaving in a kind and polite manner. This will encourage future behavior as she learns the difference between right and wrong and what the consequences are.

Tips & Warnings

• Avoid yelling, shouting or screaming at your toddler to stop; this will only anger him further and not put an end to the behavior.

References

• CHOC Children's: Tame Your Toddler's Tantrums
• Parents: 10 Ways To Tame Your Kid's Tantrums; Shaun Dreisbach
• Parents: Taming Toddler Aggression