How to End a Relationship With a Man

Ending a relationship may break his heart.

No one likes rejection, whether it's giving or receiving the rejection. But if staying in a relationship with a man is making you miserable, you are rejecting your own happiness and the possibility of a new man coming into your life. If a relationship is not worth the effort to keep it going, the only alternative is to end it. The process of ending relationships is similar to removing a band-aid. Whether you rip it off fast or take it slow and easy, the real trick is to acknowledge that it is a painful process either way.

Instructions

1. 

   Make a decision to end the relationship and stick to your decision.

   Make the decision to end the relationship. Avoid putting the demise of a relationship - the longer it continues, the harder the feelings will be later on. Ask for emotional support and constructive feedback from friends before breaking up with a man.

2. 

   Avoid allowing a man talk you out of ending the relationship once you've made your decision.

   Prepare emotionally for a negative reaction such as shock, pleading, anger, blame, hurtful words and sadness. Accept that a man may not be happy with the rejection, but do not accept aggressive behavior such as verbal and physical abuse. Refrain from changing your mind if a man pleads, makes promises, gives guilt trips, manipulates and plays with your emotions. Remember to be in control of the situation.

3. 

   Consider meeting at a restaurant during non-busy hours.

   Find a quiet and private area within a public place such as a restaurant, park or coffee shop to end a relationship. Ending a relationship in a public place may help a man refrain from an angry outburst. Remain calm and keep emotions in check during the uncomfortable moment. Do not drink alcohol - stay focused during the breakup. You also don't want him to think your decision to end the relationship was influenced by alcohol.

4. Be strong and remember that the decision you are making is to create hope and a new beginning for you. Stay focused as you keep in mind the core reasons you need to end the relationship during the breakup. Your happiness depends on making an informed choice and accepting the responsibility for that choice.

5. 

   Why waste time with the wrong man when you can be with the right one.

   Avoid a lengthy discussion, especially if it involves rehashing old arguments. Remain calm, but determined to stay the course. Avoid giving false hope by saying you need time. Follow your heart so it can be open to the right man that will be a better fit.

Tips & Warnings

• Be honest, be clear and be respectful.

References

• Psychology Today; What's the Best Way to Breakup; F. Diane Barth; April 2011
• "Living Successfully With Screwed Up People"; Elizabeth B. Brown; 1999