How to Court a Girlfriend

Courting correctly is an important part of dating.

If you find yourself going on many first dates, but not too many second or third dates, perhaps you need to take a look at your courting routine. The process of courting a woman begins when you first meet her and continues throughout your relationship. To successfully court a woman, you must find someone with whom you have compatibility and chemistry, and you have to make the effort to court her properly.

Instructions

1. Ask her out on a date. If you meet a woman with whom you feel you may be compatible or share common interests, begin by asking her out on a date. Be polite and friendly, and don't beat around the bush. Make sure you only do this in appropriate settings. For example, it is inappropriate for a doctor to ask his patient out and vice versa.

2. Choose a unique first date. First impressions are everything, and even though you've already met the woman, your first date serves as another type of first impression. While dinner is the typical first date activity, selecting an activity that both of you enjoy or picking a venue where you can really get to know each other will make for a much more memorable first date.

3. Don't expect anything after the first date. Go into the date with the mindset that you want to get to know this woman better and see how it goes. If the chemistry is there and you think a kiss at the end of the date is appropriate, then go for it. If you are unsure of how you or she is feeling, err on the side of caution. You can always share your first kiss on your second date.

4. Tell her how you feel. At the end of your date, be sure to tell her if you had a great time. Express interest in seeing her again, and see how she reacts. If she wants to see you again too, ask her when she is available to go out again.

5. Choose creative dates. Women want to know that you put some effort into your relationship. One way to do this is to be creative when it comes to planning dates. The old standby of dinner and a movie gets monotonous quickly, so find new and exciting places to take her on dates. Depending on her hobbies and yours, date ideas could include miniature golf, a comedy club, scuba diving or a concert.

6. Show her you care. Simple things like listening when she speaks, surprising her with small tokens of your affection, or telling her how you feel about her will go a long way in the courtship ritual. Continue to put effort into the courtship by actively showing her you care and finding new experiences to share together.

References

• Just Keep the Change; 11 Ways to Have a Fantastic Date with the Girl of Your Dreams; Alex Kay
• Rediff.com: New Age Courtship Tips