How to Have a Deep Emotional Connection With My Husband

Put your relationship first daily to maintain an emotional connection with your husband.

Daily life tasks, such as keeping up with a rigorous work schedule, tending to children, and doing housework, can prevent you from establishing a consistent, meaningful connection with your husband. To maintain your relationship and stay in sync with your spouse, the same focus you apply to other areas of your life must also happen with your marriage. Whether you use small, subtle gestures or grand expressions of love to show your husband you care, there are several ways to sustain a deep emotional connection with him.

Instructions

1. Place your marriage first on your daily to-do list. Your husband and your relationship should be a priority. He will more likely feel close to you if you show him that he is the most important person in your life.

2. Write a note reminding yourself to devote time to your partner in some way, on a daily basis. Place the note somewhere obscure so that only you can see it, perhaps in your purse or briefcase. When you see the note, do something romantic or spontaneous, such as giving your husband a hug or calling him just to tell him you're thinking of him.

3. Do little things to show you care. Pick up a romantic card on your way home from work. Wake up earlier and have coffee and breakfast waiting so that the two of you can talk before beginning your day. Surprise him with tickets to a concert or sporting event he wants to attend. Actions speak louder than words, and even the smallest gesture will show your commitment to staying connected.

4. Schedule couple time. This can be in the form of date nights or quiet time at home. If you have children, find a babysitter so that just you and your husband can be together. Do this at least once a week, if possible.

5. Support what's important to him. Whether it's golf or a charity, show that you are interested in his hobbies or goals. You can make him feel special by showing that you care about what he likes. Get involved and stay informed about what he's doing. Not only does this increase your opportunity to communicate, it also allows you the chance to collaborate on a project or participate together in an activity.

References

• Two of Us: Connecting Emotionally: Don't Stop Just Because You Said "I Do"
• Good Housekeeping; 30 Days Back to Love; Keith Ablow, M.D.