How to Love Your Disabled Child
Having a disabled child can be physically and emotionally challenging. Depending on the severity of your child's needs, you might find that your life changes beyond recognition and it can feel very lonely. There is often a lot of pressure on parents, and some may even feel guilty. For these reasons and many more, some parents may find themselves questioning their love for their child. Taking some time to show your child you love them can be therapeutic and reassuring at these times.
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Allow yourself to go through the whole roller coaster of emotions. Being honest with your feelings can take a big weight off your shoulders. It is normal to feel jealousy, guilt, pity and frustration, so allow yourself to experience that and move on.
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Find people who can offer you help or support, and don't be afraid to take it. Whether it's consultants or support groups, research where you can get some assistance. You might be surprised how much it helps to have people who are going through the same thing as you, and you might find some tips and tricks that make life much easier.
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Take each day one at a time, and don't answer to anyone but yourself. You might find yourself feeling out of control, but remember that the only thing you can control is today --- so focus on today and how to get through it. Make decisions to help you through without worrying about what anyone thinks -- if getting a takeout meal will ensure you both eat without mess and danger, it's no one's business but yours. You'll relieve a lot of pressure on yourself if you answer only to yourself.
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Spend time doing something fun together. Think about what is suitable, and avoid any activity that could cause tension. Take any necessary food and medication, and spend the day doing something you'll both really enjoy. This is a great way to re-establish the bond between you.
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Organize some time off. Talk to your family doctor about local organizations that might be able to provide experienced caregivers, or ask a family member or friend. Spend some time doing the things you want to do --- take a long bath, have an uninterrupted nap, go see a film or meet some friends. Give yourself some time away, and you'll return full of energy.
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Talk to your doctor about how you are feeling. You might be suffering from stress or depression, which can severely affect your emotions and moods. Working with a trained professional can help you cope with your situation and avoid affecting your relationship with your child.
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Tips & Warnings
Keep a notebook to jot down achievements --- from trying a new activity or cooking to the simple things on harder days, such as getting dressed. Look at the book when you feel drained, and see how far you've come.
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