How to Be the Perfect Mother-in-Law

Make the effort to develop a close relationship with your daughter-in-law.

Everyone has heard of difficult relationships between in-laws. Some of these difficult relationships include the ones between mothers- and daughters-in-law. Stereotypically, they are known for bickering all the time and never finding anything nice to say. Some mothers-in-law may even try to tell their sons' wives how to live their lives and become offended if they do not listen. If your son has recently married, make the effort to develop a positive relationship with your daughter-in-law.

Instructions

1. Accept her for who she is. Judging her for things she cannot change can put a major strain on your relationship. For example, if she is a different ethnicity than your son, do not make her feel like a bad person for it.

2. Do not gossip about her to other family members or friends. Gossip is hurtful, disrespectful and tasteless. If she finds out that you have been talking about her in a negative way, you will likely lose her respect and trust. If she has done something that truly offended you, confront her in person instead of talking behind her back.

3. Take an interest in her life. Always ask her how she is doing and make her feel like you are happy to see her. Occasionally invite her to lunch, so you can get to know each other better. Continue to build the relationship so she can be comfortable coming to you if she ever has a problem.

4. Allow your son and daughter-in-law to make their own decisions. Refrain from telling them the correct way to raise their child or how they should spend their vacation. Unless you suspect domestic violence, it is best to stay out of the marriage. If they notice you constantly getting into their business, they may not tell you as much about their marriage.

5. Refrain from becoming offended if she does not attend every family function. Recognize that she has a family of her own, and she also enjoys spending time with them. If you are supportive about her decision, she will appreciate your understanding nature.

References

• Family Education: Dealing with Mother-in-Law Conflicts