How to Get Rid of a Controlling Boyfriend

Break up with him in a public place, like a cafe.

Possessiveness, unkind treatment, violent temper, and constant insulting are some signs of a controlling boyfriend. The controlling boyfriend will try to take away the support system of the girlfriend so that she is left without a safety net of friends, finances, or any other outside social network. When you make the decision to break up you must be strong, consistent, and reach out to others for support during what is likely to be a difficult breakup.

Instructions

1. Break up with the person in a public place, ideally with friends or family waiting nearby in case your boyfriend reacts violently. If you don't feel safe breaking up in person, it may be appropriate to break up via phone or email. Stay calm, truthful, tactful, and keep the conversation as short as possible.

2. Create space between you and your ex. Avoid places that remind you of your past relationship. Cut off communication with him as well. Do not respond to emails or phone calls. Do not meet up with him in person. Take some time and space for yourself, to reflect on the past relationship and make plans for yourself without your ex in the future.

3. Talk to friends and fill your time with other activities that will distract you from the breakup. At the same time, friends will offer a support network to listen and sympathize. New activities will help fill your time, distracting your mind from the difficulties of a break up.

4. Trust your gut. Do not meet up with your ex alone after the break up. Always have a safety net of friends or family members around for support. There are support groups and therapists available for an objective, helpful hand.

References

• Flip this breakup: Signs of a controlling relationship
• Relazine: How to break up with a controlling partner
• Love is Respect: Breaking up
• Relationship Breakup 101: Relationships and breaking up

Resources

• Read this Article in Spanish