How to Not Be Clingy in a Relationship

Avoid being too clingy with your significant other.

When you're in a relationship, the excitement of being with someone, sharing yourself and having fun can overtake you. If you two become close instantly and the relationship seems to progress at a rapid pace, you may feel a desire to affix yourself like a suction cup to a glass pane. You could also hold a bit of repressed insecurity or anxiety while dating, demonstrating signs of being clingy. Avoid being a cling-on in your relationship so you can spend time enjoying it and not smothering it.

Instructions

1. Give your relationship some natural space. Avoid allowing the excitement of being together around the clock to make you become dependent on the routine. Give yourself some time apart even when it you seem inseparable. Spend time with your friends and run errands on your own. Enjoy time away from your mate not only to create space but to allow you to appreciate the times when you are together.

2. Build confidence in your relationship. Don't ask your partner on a continual basis if you are satisfying him, if he is happy or what you can change about yourself to better your bond. Be sure of yourself and be happy with what you bring to the table.

3. Avoid bombarding her with too much communication. From calling every hour to worrying when you don't get a quick response, don't create stress in the relationship simply because you're not connected at every moment. This also means losing the desire to call when your mate has gone out with friends and didn't let you know she made it back by a certain hour.

4. Create your own schedule for your life. Don't just drop everything every time he calls you. Be supportive and eager to see him, but ditching your plans and rearranging your schedule simply because he got off of work late is unnecessary.

5. Determine where you both stand on the status of your relationship. Don't claim her as your girlfriend if she specifically said you were just friends and went on a date or two. Reduce the risk of seeming overly aggressive and clingy by establishing what it is you are doing as friends and be sure you both agree when the relationship is taking a step forward.

References

• Marie Claire: How To Avoid Clinginess With Guys
• eHarmony: How To Fail At Falling In Love