Learning to communicate effectively is vital in everyday life whether you are speaking to fellow employees or family members. Learn to get your point across in a non-confrontational way. Learn the art of communicating in a debate or acting class. Practice communication in order to have better relationships with those around you. With patience and time, many people can become better communicators and enjoy healthy relationships.
Speak slowly and calmly. Take a deep breath to calm down and stay in control whether you are angry, nervous or shy.
Communicate clearly and concisely. Don't be vague. State your exact feeling, such as, "I am feeling tired because I did not get enough sleep." Do not assume the other person knows how you are feeling. Get right to the point.
Learn to listen. Focus on the person who is speaking. Look in her eyes. Repeat back certain things she says so that she knows you are actively listening and engaged in the conversation.
Pay attention to your non-verbal communication. Don't look away or pick at your nails. Body language says a lot in communication; if you act like you don't care, you may come off as unfeeling and cold.
Use praise along with criticism. Give a compliment before discussing a complaint. Avoid making the other person feel he is being attacked, which can cause him to become angry and unresponsive.
Tips & Warnings
- Take a public speaking course to learn effective speaking techniques when speaking in public or giving presentations.
- Get counseling or mediation if you feel you need help communicating with a loved one.
- Iowa State University: Characteristics of Good Communication
- University of Delaware; Cooperative Extension; Communication Skills for You and Your Family
- Psychology Today; What Makes a Marriage Work?; Lisa Cohen; May 3, 2011
- Oprah.com; How to Communicate Effectively; July 20, 2008
- Georgetown College; Public Speaking Courses Build Skills for the Boardroom and the Courtroom; Jessica Beckman; April 6, 2011
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