How to Build a Relationship or Rapport

Building a rapport requires healthy communication.

Relationships are important in both business and social situations. When you start a new job, meet new friends or even begin dating new people you have to start by developing a rapport in order further the relationship. When you have a positive rapport with people they feel more comfortable with you, and it's likely that you'll be able to develop open communication and a sense of mutual understanding. Taking the time to make small steps towards developing a positive rapport will ensure smoother progress in the growth of you relationship.

Instructions

1. Show interest and curiosity about the other person. When you meet someone new and you're building a relationship it's important to learn about her by asking questions. Be careful not to bombard the other person with questions but rather maintain an even flow of conversational exchange. Asking questions about a person's background and interests will often bring up topics that you have in common, and a rapport will start to form.

2. Offer your full attention and listen carefully. If you're meeting someone new and you're in a conversation try to make sure you have time to speak in a quiet area without distractions. For example, at a social gathering, when you meet a person you'd like to get to know better it helps to sit in a quiet are where you can talk without interruptions. If you are interrupted take the time to acknowledge the person and try to return to the conversation quickly. Offering you attention and interest lets the other person know that you value what he has to say.

3. Express a sense of understanding and empathy. Rapport is often based on the ability to understand and empathize with another person's point of views or experiences. If, for instance, you're just beginning to date someone new, and she gets sick with a cold you can express your continued interest in seeing her by being understanding about her issue. Offering a kind, supportive response or even sending a short message later can help her know that you're thoughtful and understanding about the situation.

4. Make plans with the person, and be consistent about calling and following through. In order to further your relationship, whether it is professional or personal, you may want to plan some time socializing over coffee or another activity, such as a tennis game. Make the effort to invite the other person, and be sure to confirm a time and place to meet. Sometimes, depending on how busy you both are, it may be helpful to send a quick message to confirm the engagement prior to your meeting.

References

• Law Practice Today: Building Rapport in a Coaching Relationship, Jerome Shore, June 2004