How to Tell a Guy You Don't Like Him Over the Phone

Continuing to talk on the phone with a guy who likes you without telling him you do not share his feelings is leading him on unnecessarily.

Telling a guy you do not have the same feelings for him as he does for you is a difficult, uncomfortable task. While you may be tempted to just avoid confronting him altogether, it is not a good idea to keep leading him on by continuing to talk to him without informing him of the truth. If you wish to tell a guy you don't like him over the phone, there are a few ways to do this that are simple, straightforward and effective.

Instructions

1. Do not wait to tell him you do not feel the same way he feels for you. This is one of the most difficult parts of being honest with a guy who likes you. You want to avoid hurting his feelings at all costs; however, you are hurting his feelings even more by waiting to tell him that you do not like him romantically. Avoid talking for hours, days or even weeks on end without sharing your feelings. If you keep talking to him without telling him you don't like him, he will assume by your actions that you do have feelings for him.

2. Be direct. When it comes to telling a guy you don't like him over the phone, it is vital to be direct. Do not be indirect or "beat around the bush" when it comes to this important clarification. Saying things such as, "You are a really awesome guy and I love hanging out with you, but I just can't be in a relationship right now," or "I'm not good enough to be your girlfriend" simply opens up the invitation to have him convince you otherwise. Say something simple, true and unquestionable, such as "I am sorry to say that I do not have any romantic feelings for you."

3. Explain the status of your current relationship. You may ask him if he wants to remain friends or end your relationship altogether. If you do not want to be friends with him any longer, explain why and do not leave it open for debate. However, if you do decide to remain friends and he agrees, be direct about the fact that there is no chance in the future of a relationship. If you say there is, that is all he will be thinking about when the two of you are together.

4. End the call. There is no need to stay on the phone with someone to whom you have just confessed your true non-romantic feelings, and both of you need time to think after having had such an important conversation. This is especially vital if the two of you have decided to end your friendship, as well. He is likely hurt, and this is unavoidable, since you told him the truth. Just remember that you would have hurt him much more deeply if you had waited to disclose this important message.

Tips & Warnings

• Be confident when telling a guy you don't have feelings for him. You deserve to be in a relationship that makes you happy, and you can't help it if you don't feel the same spark he does.

Resources

• Wambie; Tell a Guy You Don't Like Him; July 2008