How to Propose to a Shy Man
In today's society, a woman don't always wait for the man to pop the question. If you have been together long enough to know that there is no one else in the world that is right for you, take the initiative and propose. When he is a shy man, try to think of a private moment for actually making the proposal so that he feels comfortable and relaxed. The important thing is to be sincere when you are telling him how much you love and care for him and want to spend the rest of your life with him.
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Determine if the man you want to marry is just shy with strangers, has low self-esteem in general, or is actually "love shy." A man with low self-esteem may never fulfill his potential and may always be doubting himself. If a man is "love shy," he may be afraid of commitment, and if that's the case, he may say no or that he is not ready when you propose. If you are not sure, for any reason, that you should go ahead and propose, there is no harm in waiting until you feel certain he is the right person for you and that he will say yes.
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Talk about the subject of marriage and children with your boyfriend to try and gauge whether he feels ready for marriage, in general, and if he specifically sees that kind of future with you. Ask him questions like where he sees himself and the two of you together in five or ten years. If he responds favorably by sharing that he does see you two married in the future and that is something he definitely wants, then you have the green light to go ahead and propose with confidence.
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Pick a gift to give to him when you propose, but don't buy yourself an engagement ring. You may want to give him a watch with a personal message on the back of it or a gold symbol on a chain that matches one you have. If you are artistic, make a personalized gift, such as the proposal in calligraphy, or a painting or sketch of him.
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Decide when you want to propose. Choose a day to propose that has a special meaning, such as Valentine's Day or Christmas Eve, or the anniversary of the day when you first met. Ensure that it is a day on which you will not be rushed and that you can savor the occasion. Timing is important, so don't propose right after a major argument.
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Plan a simple proposal at your place or his on a relaxed evening. To make the event memorable, ask a friend to light some candles, put on romantic music, display a bottle of wine with two glasses, and scatter flower petals inside just before you two are going to enter the place. Begin the proposal by telling him what he means to you and how you feel about him and how you can't imagine your life without him. Pop the question in a way that is comfortable for you and for him and by using a phrase with which you are comfortable. It doesn't have to be "Will you marry me?". Try "I want to grow old together with you."
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Tips & Warnings
Let him know that you are certain about wanting to spend the rest of your life with him, but do it in a way that does not make you seem needy or dependent.
Be prepared that your man may not accept your marriage proposal. There is no guarantee with this kind of thing, even when you are totally convinced you two are madly in love with each other. If he does say no, have some questions prepared for him so that you can determine if it is simply a timing issue, if there are issues in your relationship you need to resolve first, or if he will never want to marry you personally.
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