How to Ask Your Ex-Boyfriend to Homecoming

Having your ex as your homecoming date may be asking for trouble.

Whether you're romantically interested or just want to go as friends, tread with caution when asking your ex to homecoming. Spending time with a boyfriend from the past could reignite old emotions, risks having feelings hurt and may lead to unnecessary drama.

Instructions

1. Assess feelings first. It's important to examine yourself honestly before you proceed. Do you have romantic feelings for your ex, and do you want to use homecoming as an excuse to rekindle your relationship? Or do you actually want to explore having a platonic relationship with him? Consider his feelings, and don't forget the nature of your breakup. If it was hard on him, asking him to homecoming as friends may just play with his emotions, or it could lead him on.

2. Make general homecoming plans before you ask him. Think about what you want out of homecoming. Do you want to go as a couple or with a group? If you're taking your ex as friend, try to create a scenario that's as unromantic as possible. Decide how you want to split payment, and if you expect him to buy you a corsage.

3. Approach him in private. Express that you should both be honest about your feelings, and tell him exactly what you have in mind. As long as you're upfront about your expectations, and he's upfront about his, nobody will wind up disappointed or with hurt feelings. Writing a note is another option. However you end up asking him, don't put him on the spot. A public invitation from you could end up humiliating him --- or humiliating you.

References

• Lemondrop: How To Stay Friends With Your Ex
• Best Prom Ideas: How To Ask A Guy To The Prom