How to Get Help in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage

Don't suffer with your abuse alone.

A marriage should be about supporting your spouse and being an emotional crutch, there to help her when she needs bolstering; however, in some marriages, the set-up is quite the opposite. If your spouse is constantly tearing you down when she should be building you up, you are likely in a union that isn't healthy, and, as a result, will not meet your emotional needs. While many people in emotionally abusive relationships fail to ask for help out of shame or an unwillingness to admit the flaws of their unions, seeking assistance if you find yourself in this kind of a relationship is of paramount importance, as suffering alone isn't something that you should have to bear.

Instructions

1. Confide in a friend. Choose a particularly trustworthy confidant in whom to confide details of your marriage woes. Recount specific examples of emotional abuse to your friend. While doing so may seem challenging, once you share this information, you will likely find yourself relieved of some of the burden associated with being a member of this unhealthy relationship, as you won't be dealing with the difficulty solo.

2. Tell a medical professional. When you next visit your doctor or mental-health practitioner, tell him about your situation. Particularly if he is trained in psychology, he can help you deal with the emotional struggles through which you are likely moving.

3. Find a support group. In many areas, support groups are available for people who are stuck in an emotionally abusive marriage. Use the support group as a safe haven into which you can escape, giving yourself an outlet and allowing you to communicate with others who can identify with your struggle.

4. Seek help from law enforcement. If your emotionally abuse marriage is, at times, also physically abusive, law enforcement assistance may be your best source of protection. If you are being abused or feel in danger with your spouse, report this to the proper authorities, to ensure that you are protected and that this behavior comes to a stop.

References

• Psychology Today; Emotional Abuse: Is Your Relationship Headed There?; Steven Stosny; June 2008
• Dr Phil: Are You In an Emotionally Abusive Relationship?