How to Cope After a Boyfriend Leaves Your Relationship

Relationships that end were often unhappy anyway.

If your boyfriend leaves you, it can feel like your entire world has been ripped apart. Indeed, when you're in a serious relationship, that relationship takes up a huge proportion of your time and life. So, when the relationship ends, it can feel like you have an enormous void to fill. Rest assured, though, that your life will march on, because it always does. You'll get over your ex-boyfriend and, soon enough, you'll look back and wonder why you were upset in the first place.

Instructions

1. Indulge yourself by splurging on something you wouldn't usually buy, such as a nice dinner or piece of jewelry. The key is to treat yourself well, which will make you start to feel positive again. That will help replace the negative feelings from the breakup.

2. Go to the gym. If you exercise, you will release endorphins, which will naturally make you feel good about yourself. You will also gain some self-confidence back as you start to look different, meet exercise goals and generally become more fit and healthy.

3. Spend time with close friends and family. When you are in a relationship, you don't usually spend as much time with your friends and family. By reconnecting with these people, you will realize that there is still love in your life and that there are people who care about you, which will make you feel better.

4. Avoid revenge. No matter what the circumstances of the breakup, the best revenge is living well. If you constantly think about how you are going to teach him a lesson, you will be consumed by negative thoughts and will not be able to cope and move on.

5. Take your time. Getting over a breakup takes time. You can accelerate this process, but you cannot make it instantaneous. So, accept that you are not going to recover overnight, but also realize that there will be a day when you are completely over it.

Tips & Warnings

• Avoid schemes to get him back. This, like revenge tactics, will just consume you and make it harder to cope.

References

• Helpguide; Coping with a Breakup or Divorce; Jeanne Segal, PhD, et al.; November 2010
• Love N Emotions: Top 10 Tips on How to Deal with a Break Up