How to Stop Whining & Complaining
With all the challenges of living in modern society, it's inevitable for people to complain and whine about their circumstances. Children complain about having to do chores, teenagers complain about restrictive curfews and overly-protective parents, adults complain about job pressures, relationship issues and children who won't yield to their authority. This often leads to an endless cycle of complaint and whining and a belief that things will never change. Recognizing that complaining about life can result in negative behavior can help change your mindset and lead to a more positive outlook.
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Instructions
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Create a "complaint sheet" and write down every complaint and every whining moment you have during the day, no matter how small or trivial it might seem.
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Review the complaint sheet at the end of the day. Analyze every complaint and determine how it was resolved. For example, if you complained that the water that was served at a restaurant didn't come with ice as you requested, did you ask a waiter for ice or did you just stew about it without finding a solution?
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Write three positive thoughts for every complaint and negative thought you've written. Write a separate list of 10 things in your life that are good and tape this list somewhere conspicuous so you can see it every day.
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Begin each day by reviewing your list of the good things in your life and specifically the things you are looking forward to that day. For example, if you have a lunch meeting with your boss to discuss your job performance, think about a favorite food you'll order or the personal qualities you will describe to your boss that you believe bring value to the company. Start every day by reciting a list of the things that you have to do in a positive way. If it's a weekend and you have many errands to do, instead of thinking about how long it will take you to finish them, express how good you'll feel after accomplishing each task and moving on to the next one.
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Say positive things to people at work, at home and in social situations. If you find yourself about to complain or whine about something, turn the statement into a positive one. For example, if you're about to complain that you didn't get a big enough raise at work, express instead how not getting the raise you expected has motivated you to work even harder and prove your worth.
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Tips & Warnings
Volunteer at a church or soup kitchen to hand out meals or help people in need. This can make you realize how blessed you are in your own life and decrease your proclivity for whining and complaining.
Avoid negative people who may cause you to revert back to your old habit of whining and complaining.
