How to Change Your Attitude So People Will Like You
If you recognize that you need to change your attitude to make people like you, you are already part of the way there. This is because you have insight into your own personality and your relationships. You may be struggling to gain and maintain friendships -- and it may have dawned on you - there is something in your attitude that is alienating others. This may not be all your fault. You may have been through a tough time, or may have been treated badly by others. It may even be that somewhere along the line you have got the idea that you need to treat others badly as a method of being successful. There was a time when this seemed to be the prevailing message in the business world. However, you can change things and improve your relationships.
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Change your attitude from your heart. If you pretend to be a different person for the sake of making friends, people will see straight through you. Show interest in other people. Smile when you meet them and show genuine interest in their lives. Give time and attention to those people who are already in your life. Use a person's name when you are speaking to him, without overdoing it.
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Avoid confronting other people and challenging their views. This does not mean you have to suppress your feelings, or be insincere. Be prepared to listen to the other person's point of view. It is possible to disagree without laboring the point or being argumentative. If you find it really difficult to express your views without becoming aggressive, consider attending assertiveness training.
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Avoid gossiping about people behind their backs and try to see the good in others. If you have been accused of being cynical or negative, work hard on changing this. People often avoid being in the company of a person who brings them down and makes them feel uninspired.
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Practice cheerfulness. You do not have to go over the top, but try to see the humor in life and aim to make others smile. Give honestly of yourself. Many people are looking for someone to listen to them.
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